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liz28 · Jun 6, 2008, 01:15 PM

I can't answer that because its her decision not mines, but I hope she will and do and if she loves you she will come back.

eastcoast1 · Jun 6, 2008, 01:32 PM

Hey Wiggy,

I think a lot of us have been where you are right now. And as everyone else has said, every situation is different, but I would be cautious. Personally, I've been in your shoes twice, the 1st time (relationship for 3 years) she needed space, and it turned out to be someone else in the picture... second time she came back around, but in the long run it didn't work out.

I do believe that sometimes people might need to clear/sort things out on their own, and I really hope this is the case with youe girlfriend.

Believe me when I tell you though, give her too much space, this will work towards your advantage. I'm sure you said everything you could to make her not take this break, if it's meant to be let time do its thing, unfortunately the ball is in her court right now. Focus on yourself right now, and maybe think about if this is something you really want to be in. After going through relationships myself, I have realized that I want someone who doesn't want to take a break from a relationship from time to time, what happens down the road?

I will promise you one thing, either way, you will be OK.

Keep us updated, and best of luck

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 01:45 PM

I didn't really try to prevent it, I mean I just allowed her to do what she needed to do.. I hope I wasn't wrong in doing that.

eastcoast1 · Jun 6, 2008, 01:48 PM

You didn't do anything wrong, frankly you could not have prevented this. This was something she had been thinking for a while, no one just wakes up one day and says "hey i want to take a breaK"

Give her space bro

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 03:45 PM

I just want to see her but I know it'll screw things up if I do, lol.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 05:09 PM

Anyone else, man the more I think about it the more it gets to me, makes me just want to cry, lol.

Chery · Jun 6, 2008, 05:27 PM

Wiggy,

You are getting distraught over something you have no control over right now. Maybe that's what's really getting you frustrated.

Ask yourself, are you a needy, clingy person or are you able to go on without placing someone else in the center of your universe?

If you have questions, go to her and talk with her. How long have you two been together? Do you have confidence in your relationship before this 'family issue' came along? Maybe it's a test for both of you - she just could be telling the truth, and you might need to find out for yourself if you can handle life without being with her all the time. You need to be able to function on a normal day to day basis with or without her, so do some stuff on your own to keep busy.

If you are not confident in this, then there was something wrong to begin with - so take this time to think and reflect and give her the benefit of doubt.

Communication and trust are important in any relationship, so what is it you are really scared of? Only you know, and if you feel you acted wrong, fix it.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 05:34 PM

I guess I am needy towards her, the relationship was perfect before it happened, and I believe she is telling me the truth, its just the idea of not being with her is what kills me.

Chery · Jun 6, 2008, 05:49 PM

Originally Posted by Wiggy22

i guess i am needy towards her, the relationship was perfect before it happened, and i believe she is telling me the truth, its just the idea of not being with her is what kills me.

What exactly was perfect?? What wonderful things did you have in common?

Is not being with her, or not having someone to wake up with, or her super smile, or laughter, or her cooking and housekeeping skills, or the talks you have together - that 'kills' you? If you cannot be specific with us, are you at least being honest with yourself?

I know, a lot more questions than answers, but I am here to get you thinking and doing a reality check before you let yourself fall further.

Stand up, be a man, and get your head together - then everything else will work out as it should - for YOU.

As long as you are honest to yourself - and believe me, a break never 'killed' anyone. It should teach you how to cope with your life better now and in the future.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 05:52 PM

It was just her, everything about her just blew me away, and she feels the same towards me, we had basically everything in common.. im trying to take her word for it and pray that this break will end soon, but from the way you speak, you make it seem like we won't, and shouldn't get back together.

talaniman · Jun 6, 2008, 06:10 PM

the relationship was perfect before it happened

That may be your view, but obviously not hers. When someone wants a break, the first question should be what's that? Simply put ,you want a clear definition and understanding, what they want, and then you can give it to them.

So now your as confused, as she is and don't know what the freak to do. I do, you man up, and do what you will with your life like she was never in it. Don't call her, or bother her, and don't pressure her.

If she hasn't called in a couple of weeks, Your already on your way to a balanced life, and still keep your dignity and self respect.

Solid "perfect" relationships, have the partners communicating, and working together, not breaking up. So don't get wimpy with the don't want to lose her stuff, because it's her choice, and she made it. Respect it, and do for yourself, and don't wallow in limbo, waiting for her to unconfuse herself.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:11 PM

The breaks only been going on for 3 days.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:21 PM

By the way, she viewed the relationship the same way, she told me she didn't think it could get any better, and now this family crap has thrown a kink in it.. I honestly see us getting back together soon its just a matter of time, and I don't really know how long I can hold out without being with her.

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:30 PM

I know she loves me a lot and she knows I'm crazy about her.. the communication was good, she's just someone I can really open up to, and she knows she can open up to me as well.

starlite1 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:40 PM

Hi Wiggy,

I'm so sorry you are hurting. I don't think love is even an issue. I really believe that she loves you and you love her. You just need to give it time, hon. I know it sucks, believe me I do. But really that is all you can do at this moment. When she is ready to talk and reach out to you, I'm sure she will, but in the meantime, you should keep yourself busy, and try and focus on yourself, and do things that you like to do, maybe even a new hobby?

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:43 PM

Yeah, I've been playing guitar hero 3 trying to keep my mind off it :P

starlite1 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by Wiggy22

yeah, i've been playing guitar hero 3 trying to keep my mind off it :P

Very Cool! Good! As long as you try and keep yourself occupied, this will help time pass quicker... and remember that we all here if you want to talk, vent, etc.. :D

Wiggy22 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:52 PM

I'm trying to keep busy, but from what I've told you, what outcome do you see coming from this.

starlite1 · Jun 6, 2008, 06:59 PM

As long as she's being honest with you (needing time to herself to straighten things out with family, etc), then I think there is no reason why she wouldn't come back to you. Again, as long as she is being honest, and those are the reasons she needed the break.

talaniman · Jun 6, 2008, 06:59 PM

Originally Posted by Wiggy22

i know she loves me alot and she knows im crazy about her..the communication was good, she's just someone i can really open up to, and she knows she can open up to me as well.

It wasn't good enough to work together. As I said you should have defined your terms because a break can mean anything. Is it fair? I hope it turns out the way you want it.