Hi, my question is I was in a relationship with a guy for a couple of months and I found out he was a complete player. We work together which I know is a mistake, but he was completely rude to me the other night for no reason at all. He was flirting with me so I gave him my new number with a piece of paper that included a little sexual message (which he used to love). He kept my number and told me that I was "off", whatever that means. Here is the deal, I think he is a piece of and I want nothing to do with him. He has serious issues. However I want him to want me so bad it hurts him. I don't want him to have the satisfaction of knowing he has affected me in any way. I've been told to blow him off and just act like nothing is wrong, flirt with other guys and it will drive him nuts. I don't want attention or anything else from him, but I do want to see him go nuts by not getting attention from me. Help me out guys. What else can I do? I'm not used to playing games so this is new to me. Also, why would he keep my number? Just curious.

Jahiem28

Hi there Don't feed into he's games. I think your confused. You think he's a piece of shi* then you turn around and give him your new number. That is playing right into the hands of a player. I'm curious why waste your time and energy on revenge. What goes around come around. Poetic Justice will catch up with him. I would stand clear and move on with my life minus the drama. GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!

CroCivic91

Word!

Keep the drama down sister, act like nothing happened...it's not like you'll earn 1000$ for hurting him, so rather spend your time thinking how to make more money or do something for yourself. There's like a billion things in life i'd rather do than trying to make someone go nuts.

Peace...

trulydiva

First: Check yourself. Your post sounds really confused; you don't want attention "or anything from him" yet you want to drive him wild "noticing how you are'nt trippin over him.... contradiction. You are trippin and you want him to notice how you are'nt trippin so you so you can hurt his feelings..... N E WAY.
The BEST revenge? SUCCESS!!!!!! Get on with it. Do YOUR thing, make sure you are taking care of yourself. You will look good, and you will feel good and you will attract good things to you. Concentrate on doing well on your job(maybe secure a promotion?), make some cash, get a new man, be happy, buy yourself flowers, celebrate life. If you can't think of anything to celebrate? Then think of life with HIM and be glad that you dodged that bullet. And DO NOT let him worm his way back, because I know if you do what I say, he'll want in..... and you will have the last laugh. Oh, and one more thing, be pleasant to him. Don't give him attitude. That's what he will expect. Be a lady and let your light shine, give him something to think about. Don't be a regular, be a cut above.

justjamestx

As sweet as it sometimes sounds, there is no such thing as sweet revenge. As difficult as it may be, you should just move one and forget about the "player". Revenge is never "even" and can just go back in forth for long periods of time. The only gratification you really need is that fact that you were able to see that person for who they really were before many years have passed. You hear many stories of people finding about "players" years in the relationship or even marriage. So I am not really an "I for and I" person. The thoughts of revenge stores anger that is not good for yourself. So focus you attention on the positives in your life and those things you can do to improve upon it, and the "player" in time will find his match or not, but will make no difference for time heals all wounds.

Wildcat21

This is classic for a young woman. Woman love Jerks. Woman love what they can't have. Woman love a challenge.

You have strong attractions and feelings for this guy. He makes you think you can change him. He isn't boring.

He will break your heart and is probably in reality a complete loser and someone you could NEVER be happy with.

ladyandjan

Get on with your life. As I'm sure you've heard the saying "he's just not into you" so move on and give it up-don't play the games you mentioned you never have-why start now?

RockMtl

There is only one thing you should be concentrating on right now...and that's...YOU! Looking over your shoulder in any relationship...is no GOOD! I echo the posts that say, BE NICE, BE A WOMAN.
You do not want to be the woman, that walks into a restaurant or party, where many there MAY be pointing a finger and saying..."Oh, poor girl, cause I had him last week". Your more important than that.

miranda_is_hot

well he still likes you.. im in the sam sitchwation me and this guy have been going out over nine months he dumps me for my best friend 5 or more tiems but all differnt girls but all my best friends...he keeps dumping me and asking me out.. its soo hard too.. but idk i have to talk to him about it today too bc we might brake up grr im sick of this.. but u umm idk flirt with a bunch of guys ask to hang out then call a guy and flirt

Wildcat21

This is from TWO years ago!!!! Hello!!!

This person has completely moved on. Done with that situation.