I want to know if anyone has a story about being cheated on. . I mostly want to know what happened and why, and how long it took for them to want you back, if they did ever.

shygrneyzs

I was once engaged to a guy who slept with his brother's fiance. How I found out was when she came to see me and told me she was pregnant and she thought it was his. She said if the baby was his, she would allow us to adopt the baby. Howwwwwwwww generous of her to think of me like that. NOT!

When he stopped by that evening to go out to dinner I told him what happened and told him to "jump in the river" and a few other things. Kept the engagement ring for awhile, then took it back to the jewelers.

Chery

Only once..

My man at that time was a doctor and this OR nurse was talking about him one day in the dining hall. She claimed that she thought he was a fag because of the way he walked.

I went so Spain for a few weeks, and when I came home early, cleaned up a bit, fond long red hair in the bed.....

That night I sat in the kitchen with a knife in front of me - imagening performing a little surgery myself - but calmed down.

The next day, I went into the nurses lounge, walked up to her and gave her the hair back. I told her that the next time she goes to bed with the 'fag' she needs to pick up after herself, and walked out.

He and I went on our scheduled vacation to Greece a few weeks later and had a real great time. I almost married him, but my mother told him that HE was too good for me... Ironic!

We parted a year later, after three years together, as friends and still communicate. I got married first and he married a year later - a gal that looked almost like me, but it did not last.

He was 11 years older than me, but I think I was more mature at that time already and jealousy was never an issue in my life.

After my divorce to Jaime's father he confessed that he cheated too, and I told him I knew it all along, but it did not bother me because I did not love him anymore by that time because he was a wife-beater.

Since then, no other man felt the need to cheat on someone who such stuff did not phase.

I just thank my lucky stars that they did not catch anything and pass it on to me - I guess I was lucky.

If I had more time to start a new relationship, I don't think I would be so tolerable anymore though... now it is either with me only, or without me - period.

Cher13

i got a phone call from a woman telling me that my boyfriend is her fiance and they have a son together....i stopped breathing, there is no pain greater then finding out the one you love more then anything and everything in the world is not who you think they were and would hurt you so much

MissingHim2Much

My ex didn't officially cheat, he instead left me for another woman. His new gf is bad news, pretty much like what you've said about your ex's new gf. She has been in and out of jail on drug possession charges and is currently on probation, and has 4 children by 4 different men. Like you, we were together for many years and were each others bestfriend. That was 4 months ago and I haven't heard from him since. So NO they don't always COME BACK!

ISneezeFunny

...it seems that i attract the cheaters.

i am currently 21. a senior in college. i've had 3 serious relationships. my most recent one ending just a week or so ago.

my 2nd serious relationship was great. i left a girl that i was briefly dating for the new girl, thinking that this was "the one"...stupid. regardless, she was just looking for rebound as she left her boyfriend. we were together for a year and a half until she got back with her ex.

my most recent girlfriend...is the female version of mr. rogers. she is sweet, caring, VERY thoughtful...but with that came innocence + naivety. I was her first boyfriend...ever. we were together for 3 years, and about 2 weeks ago, she started to act funny. now, in the relationship, she is the affectionate one. i mean, i will be affectionate, but she is the one that'll always want to cuddle/hug...always. she stopped 2 weeks ago. so i figured, it's finals week...stressed...etc. last week, i approached her to ask her what was going on, and she simply said...I NEED SPACE. and we broke up. i was shocked.

3 days after we broke up, i hear that this one guy's been hanging around her a lot...granted, he's been hanging around her a lot previous to us breaking up, but now i hear that he's been spending the night in her room, etc. i asked her about it (i shouldnt have...it's none of my business), and she said that nothing's going on, and that i'm overreacting. so i believed her. why wouldnt i? she's been honest with me for 3 years. then i find out from one of her friends that he IS spending the night, and has been for the past 2 - 3 days.

believe it or not, this girl...has a reputation of a saint. i told my best friend about this situation, and he was shocked...almost to the point he didnt believe me. then we saw her driving the new guy's car around...

...much less to say...i am angry. i am hurt. i was a walking wreck during finals week. but i'm doing much better now...still pretty angry. still pretty hurt, but i at least dont feel like ripping someone's head off. she didnt cheat...or maybe she did...who knows? but a girl with a "heart of gold" and a "reputation of a saint"...blindsided me like a mack truck. not sure what's going on...not sure what happened.

currently, i do not have much faith in relationships. i did learn one lesson: i will never give up that much of myself to ANYONE. ever.

her friends have stopped talking to her for this mess, as she lied to them about it as well. her friends do not like the new guy, and still call me to hang out with me. my friends refuse to talk to her, and told me that she will one day realize the mistake she's made...but if i ever get back with her, i will be shot. ...understood.

peggyhill

Well, I've been cheated on a couple times but it was in high school. We were both dumb kids, so I don't hate him or anything. My sister in law lived with this guy for 4 years and then found out he was cheating on her with another man, how's that for messed up?!

Rockstar714

My first boyfriend cheated on me with numerous girls for the year we were together. I knew something was funny when I had to pretty much beg for any type of intimacy. He was always talking about all of these other girls that came around, but swore they were just friends. Then he got kicked out of where he was living (or so he said) and moved in with his best friend's girlfriend's mom and sister (and according to him, the sister's boyfriend). I knew something was up when he didn't want me to come over, wouldn't call me, when I said the L word he'd just say "mmhmm" and when he said that the sister was buying him a cell phone (which I'd already done, twice). So then it was confirmed when my friend called me to tell me that she was playing around on yahoo personals and saw his profile. I checked his email account and found numerous messages from all sorts of girls. I confronted him, he lied. Then the girl he was living with's sister called me and said he was seeing me, her sister and a few other girls. His friend's said the same thing, and according to his best friend it'd been going on since almost the beginning. So I showed up at his girlfriend's house with all his stuff that I had, asked for my stuff back and left. He called begging me to come back to him, but it never happened. He cheated on her with all sorts of girls too. That will never happen to me again...

xcookiemonstorx

just like ISneezeFunny i think i attract cheaters to. im to kind and generous and trusting. but i have learnt my lesson. my first boyfriend and i were very serious. i moved in with him when i was 17 and lost my virginity to him. it was an abusive relationship really bad but i though i could 'fix him, and help him'. he was so controlling. i wont go into details but looking back i cant believe i was that weak. well i finally left him when i found out he cheated on me with his ex right before we were supposed to get married (gag so stupid).

my next boyfriend i shouldve seen player written all over him. he wasnt abusive but he didnt love me. he cheated on me with my best friend.

my last boyfriend i thought was the love of my life. we were together almost 2 years. and we had an amazing relationship. we both said we wanted to be together forever. ive come to realize in the past 2 days since i found out he was cheating on me that u cant trust your heart. in my stomach i knew something was wrong. i could tell. but i never thought he would betray me like that. he really used to love me. says he always will but he needs space (aka a new girl). i think trust is overrated. if you keep your guard up it will help bc then you would have saved a piece of yourself for you only. not just given it away. iknow i will never ever trust anyone again. i cant. and i wont.

xcookiemonstorx

just like ISneezeFunny i think i attract cheaters to. im to kind and generous and trusting. but i have learnt my lesson. my first boyfriend and i were very serious. i moved in with him when i was 17 and lost my virginity to him. it was an abusive relationship really bad but i though i could 'fix him, and help him'. he was so controlling. i wont go into details but looking back i cant believe i was that weak. well i finally left him when i found out he cheated on me with his ex right before we were supposed to get married (gag so stupid).

my next boyfriend i shouldve seen player written all over him. he wasnt abusive but he didnt love me. he cheated on me with my best friend.

my last boyfriend i thought was the love of my life. we were together almost 2 years. and we had an amazing relationship. we both said we wanted to be together forever. ive come to realize in the past 2 days since i found out he was cheating on me that u cant trust your heart. in my stomach i knew something was wrong. i could tell. but i never thought he would betray me like that. he really used to love me. says he always will but he needs space (aka a new girl). i think trust is overrated. if you keep your guard up it will help bc then you would have saved a piece of yourself for you only. not just given it away. iknow i will never ever trust anyone again. i cant. and i wont.