Some of you know my story, basically I am still finding it quite hard to come to terms with though. I was doing so well, I seem to have slipped back downhill the past couple of weeks : ( just depressed really, and thinking basically he doesn't want to know me anymore : ( I have been unable to get my driving lessons the past couple of weeks, and my work is very quiet, I think that these things have not helped, as I always try to keep busy.

It has been almost 7 weeks since I contacted my ex, this is the longest I have managed to not contact him which is great, but beginning to feel a bit sick inside that I will never be with him again. He hasn't contacted me and that really hurts me so much : ( I know there is no reason to, other than he has my stuff, but I am finding it really hard to get my head round everything, how someone can just forget about you I suppose.

I was wondering if I should call him after it has been 2 months, or whether I should just leave it. I am wondering if he will ever come back but with time going on I doubt it.

The good thing is I have my new flat to look forward to, I intend to spend a lot of time sorting things out with, including during the Christmas holidays.

I have been doing so well, it's a shame I am dreaming about him at night, and thinking about him during the day unintentionally : ( this is making me quite stressed and not my normal self.

Skell

Wap,
im like cat. I know you are a great girl with a great heart.

your just going through normal human feelings. your allowed to feel them thats fine. it is how you react to them that counts.

You have a few options. you can give into them and call him and i KNOW for a fact that you will fee worse.

You can let these feelings keep you down and control your life to a point where every living moment is miserable OR

you can tackle them head on. realise they are just normal feelings and they will pass and get out there and keep on living. keep on moving forward.

I know the path you have chosen to take so far and it certainly isnt the first two. So keep moving forward, keep working out, keep having fun with that pad of yours and these feeling will surpass.

Gee, your only 7 weeks into your healing. that isnt long. you are going to have many many ups and downs yet. i can assure you of that. But the downs get rarer and the ups get frequenter. so thats something to look forward to.

your going great wap. you really are. Keep it up!

Wildcat21

See - I know this guy knows she's too good for him.

This feelings will pass.

chuff

Hello Wap. I see your single. I'm single too. DAMN OCEAN!!!

In all seriousness I'm looking at your photo and your incredible. What's more is I'm reading your posts and you seem to have "it." What I mean by that is open to new ideas, your flexible in your approach, your a pretty outgoing and caring individual, and your obviously educated. I've got to think there is a guy in somewhere in the United Kingdom that would really appreciate those attributes. I think if you've made one mistake in this situation that would be that you've sold yourself short. You've got better options waiting for you.

s_cianci

I'd just leave it. Calling him or contacting him in any way will only prolong it and make it that much harder. You seem to be doing well so far but not contacting him at all will minimize the time required to be completely over him. Keep busy like you've said. If things are slowing down and that's not good for you then open up some new avenues to explore.

momincali

Why have you come to the conclusion that he has forgotten about you? Based on your posts, you come off as a warm, intelligent and certainly by your picture, a beautiful young girl, who can possibly forget that???

He is human too and may be struggling as well, just hides it better. In any case, everyone will find themselves feeling depressed all of a sudden even if things were going great, it's the human condition. Our emotions take center stage, not allowing our brains to see the facts for what they are, our emotions will get us in trouble if we let them.

Just like dieting...we know being fat isn't healthy so we leave the bad food behind changing our eating habits, we start working out regularly and we're dropping the pounds...until...one day we just hit a plateau and it seems no matter what we do we can't lose anymore weight...do we stop? No, we change it around some more until we get over that hump. We have to continue our lifestyle our we'll fall back into those bad habits.

Don't give up. Don't give in. Don't contact him in any way or form for any reason. Get over that hump, change it around...and don't forget to tell yourself everyday...today is a new day, what's waiting for me around this corner?

Skell

They dont forget. they just appreciate the situation too and know it is best if they dont have any contact.

i know my ex was like that. she will never forget me. No way. but she knows that contact is not good at this point.

I respect her for that!

maybe he has the same thoughts!

Skell

Cause you dont really think that by him calling to see how you are going is going to make you feel better do you.
It wont.
Youll want him more again and youll read into things that arent there.
it is best if he keeps his distance too. just like we advise you!

he may be on another site getting the NO CONTACT rammed into him as well!

wap

I just want to thank everyone for sharing their thoughts, I really will take these on board. I am actually very quiet, not really outgoing, but he is very outgoing, extravert. I think that may have been part of the problem. I am going to try extra hard from now on, to get where I was before. I have put all the cards and photos etc into a box, I am planning to keep those in a box and keep them in my mum and dad's house, so that I don't take them with me to my new flat.

Geoffersonairplane

Sometimes opposites attract and there must have been a reason he was attracted to you in the first place. Yes, you are attractive but to be with you for 4 years there must have been more than just attraction based on looks. My ex was an extrovert and likewise, I was more reserved but sometimes, opposites can attract.

talaniman

I think this experience will make you smarter, and stronger as a persom and as you heal and the emotions become more manageable you will be able to take the positives with you for life. I do wish you Good Luck and hope you find your dreams. No doubt I'll see you on other threads, and you know you can let us know when you need a little sunshine on a cloudy day.