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Some of you know my story, basically I am still finding it quite hard to come to terms with though. I was doing so well, I seem to have slipped back downhill the past couple of weeks : ( just depressed really, and thinking basically he doesn't want to know me anymore : ( I have been unable to get my driving lessons the past couple of weeks, and my work is very quiet, I think that these things have not helped, as I always try to keep busy.
It has been almost 7 weeks since I contacted my ex, this is the longest I have managed to not contact him which is great, but beginning to feel a bit sick inside that I will never be with him again. He hasn't contacted me and that really hurts me so much : ( I know there is no reason to, other than he has my stuff, but I am finding it really hard to get my head round everything, how someone can just forget about you I suppose.
I was wondering if I should call him after it has been 2 months, or whether I should just leave it. I am wondering if he will ever come back but with time going on I doubt it.
The good thing is I have my new flat to look forward to, I intend to spend a lot of time sorting things out with, including during the Christmas holidays.
I have been doing so well, it's a shame I am dreaming about him at night, and thinking about him during the day unintentionally : ( this is making me quite stressed and not my normal self.
yes, wondering makes me feel worse in general. I think you do that every so often, because you can get on so far without thinking and then you miss them so much that you just want them back.
NO, dont make any excuses. You can do better that!
You are a strong and gorgeous gal...
All you have to think is its his loss and not yours..
Thanks everyone, I know how you feel about it Wildcat, I like you to be honest.
I miss us laughing together, our silly wee jokes, him cooking, just everything really. I am on here tonight again, as I feel lit helps me to get things out of my head, I have been having many dreams lately and it's weird because I didn't do that at the start. If only I had a crystal ball to see into my future : )
They are called an "ex" for a reason. Think of the letter "X". Isn't that what teachers use to mark an answer WRONG on a test?(Usually with a Big Red X too, if you don't mind me saying so). So think of it like this "ex"=WRONG. He was wrong for you. It will get better for you I promise.
Hi Wap,
totally understand what you are talking about. I can cringe and tell you I've "delayed" getting over an ex for such a long time. I entertained ideas he would want me again "sometime". (It's so embarrassing to write this down, when it has seemed so reasonable in my head!!) We got back in touch again after a sufficient break in contact, but what for?! We visited each other. We wrote and called each other from all sides of the globe as "friends". Basically, I made sure that he was still in my life to dangle a carrot in front of my face, and I could continue wallowing in my loss of soul mate.
It's been a good few years, and it still hurts. It still feels "wrong" that he doesn't want to be with me. It feels terrible to know he is quite happy with someone else: and more importantly, my head hasn't been in the right place to embrace a healthy relationship because there is still someone on the pedestal in my head.
These guys would probably not even match up to the ideal we have of them!!
I have decided to put the past in the past. It WAS your present, but he chose to make it the past. Leave it that way. Grieve. Start falling in love with yourself all over again, because breakups feel like crap and no one likes themselves too much during them. Don't rush out to meet anyone else. Give this time... and space. Please heed me on this one. I wasted the last couple of years with some idiot in the back of my head, despite meeting lovely people there was always the "what if he comes back?". The fact that he doesn't want you is his loss. You don't want someone who doesn't want you. And it sucks, and there is no timeline, but a good measure is: it takes the length of the relationship again for you to get over it. And I tend to agree. Here's to the future, and hope it all goes well for you. there are bad days, but all those days are days you made it on your own two feet. xx
dont worry im the same. i have been thinking alot about dan. i havnt called him or anything. even though i wish for him to contact me. i know he will never have me back and thats one of the things that hurts me the most. i just cant seem to move on and get over him good luck hun
I entertained ideas he would want me again "sometime". (It's so embarrassing to write this down, when it has seemed so reasonable in my head!!) We got back in touch again after a sufficient break in contact, but what for?! We visited each other. We wrote and called each other from all sides of the globe as "friends". Basically, I made sure that he was still in my life to dangle a carrot in front of my face, and I could continue wallowing in my loss of soul mate. 
good luck hun
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