What are the different stages of your emotions when getting dumped. It's been about a week and yes, I have been thinkg of ex but not hurting. Then all of a sudden without any motive I just started missing her so much. One minute I'm happy without her and now I'm angry at her for what she did to me.

canadianbacon

I just got dumped a week ago too by my girlfriend. The first week was hell for me, especially because I ran into her at a bar with the "Guy friend that I never had to worry about" and they seemed to be more than friends now. I would say that the first few weeks are going to be pretty rough, depending on how long the relationship was (1.5 years for me) and how the relationship ended. I'm still in the grieving stage, but I'll let you know when I move on. Best of luck, I'm there with you...

chuff

You go through that back and forth stuff. I think it's the brains way of dealing with the loss. On a logic level their gone and even if it hurts you accept it but then on an emotional level you feel a void. I think that it's wise to make a list of things you can do in the short term to bring you focus to something else. It won't cure it but it will help you focus your attention on other things and as a result the thoughts will become less and less.
Also, I can't recommend exercise enough, it releases endorphins in the brain which make you feel better and it also helps to clear your thoughts.

SAB123

Update, It's been over 6 months since my ex fiance ripped my heart out again. I know I am well recovered enough never to take or speak to my ex again. I just need to know if I am at the end of my healing process. The past week I hardly dream of her any more. But it seems like when I drive home from work every day or every couple of days I will get very anxsiuous and feels like I want to burst out crying in my car but I don't and I feel this way only for about an hour. Then I'm totaly fine. Then I talk my sister said yes she does have a boy friend which I kinda of new but I wasn't hurt. Then my dad said she saw her and her son at car show. Then when my dad brings her up I got upset, Why did I get upset when my dad said he saw her but didn't get up set when my sister mentioned new guy.

chuff

Just curious have you ever, before you met her, ever felt like like crying or felt saddness for an hour a day? Perhaps that's some form of depression and has nothing to do with the ex. Either way it sounds like your maybe not quite there at the end but reaching the end.

SAB123

Chuff, Never felt sad or depressed for hour a day but was thoew out my 20's I wasn't sad but felt scared and lonely that I wouldn't never meet someone and have a relationship with. I was very picky of girls. But now again I have those same feeling like before. But I do see now that I will be happier without her.

Geoffersonairplane

I think (from what you write) that you are far from where you feel you should be. I sense that you are still hurting and albeit after 6 months, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

The answer to your question about why you got upset when your dad said he saw her (possibly with a new guy) is that no matter how much you try to fight it, you are still in some way hung up on her and againnthis is normal.

No matter how much time passes, it does not matter, it takes time and there is no rule, I believe also that even if you do heal, you can still get moments...Moments when you reminisce, you remember the past.

Try however to not let people talk about her because that is just digging up s**t and living too much in the past.

Geoffersonairplane

Looking back at your past can be a good thing but dwelling on mistakes and misfortunes too much is a misfortune in itself.

SAB123

Yes seems like people keep bringing her up, then I'll answer their question then complain later that I keep talking about her which I trying not to do. But I did tell my dad never to bring her name up again and I will do to the rest of my friends. I probally got upset because my dad said if we get back together she will never be welcomed in his house again. But I just hurt sometimes, I mean when I'm alone I think of her alittle bit then I'll drift back and forth of thinking of her. But when I'm out with friends I don't think of her at all. Do you think it's to soon to start dating. My dad didn't say she was with someone but that poped up in my mind maybe because I thought the new guy was with her and her son.

Geoffersonairplane

Its all vicious circle mate..

People can see you are still hung up on her even though you are trying not to be and thereby instigating conversation about her. They can see what you are feeling and don't realise that what you need is not to reminisce. It is however an aura you will give off for a while even without realising it. When you truly let go, this aura will fade a little.

You will get there.. It takes a while.