Ok I have narrowed down the guys to a total of 3 guys now. They have all rubbed me wronge . like the one at work never calls when he says he will . The one outside work avoided me thinking i would be mad that he couldn`t pay me the 20 dollars i lent him . The guy at work is sweet . But strange and he interests me but we have nothing in common besides where we work . Now the guy outside work we like alot of the same stuffs . Then there is anouther guy who has helped me out alot . He is sweet we have some mutual interest. he was there when i needed help.

Not to mention with all this going through my head my x had to call me and ask me for advise with his new girlfriend. I didn`t mind giving him advise but the conversation that came after the girlfriend talk . was our past sex life . witch i don`t want to remmber. I thought i was free and that the attachment i had with him was gone . But during that talk i felt my feeling coming back . I know i can`t go back . After that call i kinda pushed everyone away from me tring to pull myself back togeather . That was just a phone call . what if i ment him when i was out . what would happen . i don`t know . I don`t want to think about it .

Lets go back to the 3 guys . i really like the one i lent money to . He is like me got knocked on his *** and is tring to get back on his feet. He seems interested. But i seem to get really nervous around him . i know i need to relax and be me.

All i want is guy that likes me for me . I don`t want to have to depend on them nor do i want them to depend on me. Someone to hold me . someone to hold. someone that likes what i like. someone to make me feel special. Is this to much to ask?

well i don`t know must be a bad day for me . i seem to be rolling in my own self pitty . i will snap out of it by morning

milliec

no, it's not much - it's just about what it's all about....
but - keep looking, it's not SO easy to find this person, and CUT ALL the connection lines with your ex!
good lick,
millie

fredg

Hi, cess,
Finding someone is sometimes difficult, and it all depends on how many guys you can meet. If you are limited to 3 or 4, then it's difficult.
Do you go out much? You can meet guys at a Food Store, Drug Store, any type of public place.
Smile, and it shows you like yourself; others will like you, too. Getting involved with someone at work can sometimes turn out very badly. If things go wrong, then there is always "gossip" about it, and some taking "sides".
Eventually, you will find someone who is just right for you; but you have to keep looking. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

valinors_sorrow

You aren't asking too much but maybe the way you are going about it needs a little examination? Life ought not be a hunt for a partner when you are single, nor is it tons of work to keep it all going when you are partnered either. When I concentrated on being like the marines: "Be all that you you can be!", I found that I tend to attract what I wanted easily when I was single and I am now enjoying the fruits of a relationship that only takes some occasional work. The whole trick here is to be the best you possible, remain focussed on that and offer support for others to be their best self too.

talaniman

I agree with VAL-focus on yourself and your well being and the things you like to do and when your ready you'll find some one. Choosing a guy from a group sounds like you want someone just to have someone.Be patient and have fun and just wait.

CaptainForest

Then perhaps none of them are right for you. If they are all rubbing you the wrong way, perhaps you need to go find yourself a guy who doesn’t rub you the wrong way.