I am currently in medical school. My boyfriend has a great job in business. Now, he wants to quit his job and own his own business because he will make more money that way. He is very ambitious when it comes to money so there is no doubt he will work hard, but deep down inside, I know he will hate it and regret quitting his current job. One thing that concerns him is my career path and his will not match. He says his isn't as prestigious. At first I agreed with him and tried to dissuade him from owning his own business, but it just backfired on me. Now I told him I will support him in whatever he does. We recently got back together after he broke up with me, and he is still unsure about us he says. That hurts me alot even after showing him that I support him no matter what. Did I do the right thing by showing support? Should I find someone of my caliber even though for some reason I still love this guy? He hasn't put me as a priority ever since we have gotten back together. He hardly calls or texts me. He does make an effort to see me once a week though.

s_cianci

You'll have to make your own decision on this. We can't make it for you. If you don't feel that he is adequately vested in this relationship then it may be time to call it off. I think the whole job/business thing is just a red herring and has nothing to do with the real issues here.

statictable

I may be wrong but you've discribed a perfect NE-ern mind set and if I'm wrong I appologize.

The concept of education as it relates to one's social and/or intellectual tier remains strong within certain regions of this country (USA) but a far greater portion of our population has been able to clearly define that concept and in the past 20 years we've witnessed a growing sense of awareness as it relates to one's success in and out of the "mainstream."

We are more aware of the fact that a Nikolai Rimsky-Korsakof produced music without a book of instructions and you can be the Governor of California and lack any formal education.

A physician was pedestal-ized (psst-held on a pedestal) into the 4th quarter of the 20th century in much the same way a priest, rabbi, airline pilot, film actor, poet, artist and a whole assortment of magnates, scientists and authors might have been. Today that list has "normalized", becoming far more realistic.

Relegation; the ability to provide quality health care has become far more reliant on non-physician "types" due to advancements in both technology and pharmacology not to mention scores of non traditional care givers and the exponential rise in personal health awareness. Often one's signature out perform personage.

The faint hint of success or intellectual superiority based on societal norms would be cause for any bright person educated or not to seek refuge. As a witness to this man's response the very last thing needed was a 180 but there are regions in this country where 180's are a way of life and a way to find social and intellectual acceptance.

spitvenom

To me it doesn't sound like you are showing support you are only giving him lip service. I mean you already know he is going to hate owning his own business how you already know that is beyond me i guess they have course you can take in medical school that gives you the power to tell the future. And to be so pompous to say that he is not your caliber but you love him anyway is just wrong!!!!!!!!!! To be honest you should break up with him and find someone in medical school that is developing a God Complex like you are. It shouldn't be to hard.

mafiaangel180

Well my question is, why did you break up with you?

It seems to me he has his plate full. My ex dumped me to figure out his life, like his mind was spinning and being in a relationship only added to his confusion. I would give him some space.