So confused about my relationship?

leigh27 · Jul 24, 2012, 07:44 PM

You say he isn't the same; actually, he IS the same. He is showing you exactly who he is. As you said, it's always great at first, bec. everyone is on their best behavior. Over time, though, you see who the real person is, & in his world, it's "like it or lump it".

You will not find a person who treats you as worthy of love until you treat yourself that way. You may want to examine why you are allowing this kind of emotional abuse. If you don't think you deserve joy and happiness, then THAT'S your problem, not this guy.

Have some self-respect & walk away from this loser. Don't let any of his words affect you; just let 'em roll off you. Take some time & imagine all the activities/people/dreams/goals that give you joy. Spend time there. When you are healthy inside, you will attract a healthy guy. God bless you

ritz09 · Jul 24, 2012, 08:53 PM

Thank you for your honesty. Just rereading what i wrote and reading your reply makez me see what i already should know.

BethVader · Jul 24, 2012, 08:59 PM

He is cheating on you with his ex girlfriend, and more than likely other women as well.
Dump him immediately and move on with your life.
There is NO WAY this man will ever be the man you need.
Loss is painful, but staying in this hell is far worse.
Cling to your girl friends & a huge pint of ice cream.
Leave him now and in two months you will be a much happier person!

ritz09 · Jul 24, 2012, 10:15 PM

Thank u for your advise. The worst thing about actualy leaving him is the time i wasted being with him. I was single for 5years before i met him and the reason was because i didnt want to be in a situation like this ever again. And whats even worse,he knew all this about me. Ugghhh just hurting so much..

BethVader · Jul 24, 2012, 11:16 PM

You will get through it, and be much happier when it's over.
Now, is the messy part, and no one likes ending a relationship,
just bite the bullet and kick his loser to the curb.
You are too good for him. You know this.

leigh27 · Jul 24, 2012, 11:19 PM

Consider it time spent learning something about yourself. You'll recognize the red flags better in the future IF you take the time to learn to value yourself. Be thankful you didn't marry this person, or have a child; then you'd really be in a mess. I'll be praying for your healing - it will come! Now, call up a good friend & go do something fun.

ritz09 · Jul 25, 2012, 12:29 AM

Thank u lovlies for taking the time to write..time to heal is what i need. Just dont have the energy to think about anything, let alone do something fun. Hard road.i really wanted to be with him,but its a shame its ending like this.

BethVader · Jul 25, 2012, 01:01 AM

Like she said, but grateful you didn't marry him or have children!
It is wise to walk away now, with your head held high.
You can find a much better man than that.
Just remember, the man you date should be making you feel GOOD about
yourself!!! He should bring up you up in life, not down.

ritz09 · Jul 25, 2012, 01:12 AM

i am greatful i didnt have kids with him or marry him. Did kinda see myself marrying him one day, but this must be a blessing in disguise that all this has happened.
It kills me to think i have to go through HOPEFULLY finding someone again and that treats me right.
Always said id end up alone. Uuggh..
Your words mean alot

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