ok, this should be hopefully, one of the last posts about the guy i'm ' kinda currently with'.

i finally got fed up with his (self admitted) pushing me away and then calling me up to spend time with me when he felt it was ok enough for him.

i wrote him a kind, but honest letter (yes a letter dont thwack me, i cant SEE him since he moved far away and couldnt call, otherwise i know about the no feelings in an email thing) explaining why i would not be talking to him for the next little bit. (i couldnt just stop talking to him without offering him an explaination. i know if rolls were reversed i would have appreciated some kinda one myself)

i told him how i felt about him, but also how emotionally draining it was. i told him that when he is ready to pull instead of push me away i'm there for him.

i didnt end the relationship. this is me giving him a lot of space to think about what he really wants. and i guess in this time i'm doing some thinking too, while i'm trying to keep a growing line of guy friends away from moving into position to try and claim me should i become single.

i love this guy, but i'm using the adadge, "if you love someone set them free, if it's meant to be they will come back to you."

it's hard. it's only been a week so far of no communication at ALL, and i'm going nuts. i'm hanging out with my friends and stuff but still i long for his voice and to feel his touch.

he's made no effort to talk to me since, he didnt even reply to the letter.

guess i'm just looking for some extra strength to get through this. *weak smile* i am adament not to buckle tho and stick to my grounds.

However, i'm not putting my life on hold for this guy forever. if i havent heard anything from him by the first of the month, i'm going to end it cleanly.

Skell

you stay strong. You have to.
you have seen first hand here that this is the best option for you at the moment.

you have even given loads and loads of wonderful advice to many people on here saying as such.

i think you are going a wise way about this. you havent seemed overly confident or satisfied in this relationship from your first post here!

Wildcat21

Blazing - you know it's best to leave him be. I wouldn't contact him at all if that's they way he acted. Make him come to you - if not - then somethings wrong with this guy.

He needs to apprecoate you. He takes you for granted.

I wondering if, forsome reason, he doesn't respect you????

Krs

Blazingsun you are such a strong person i dont think you realise this.

You have done the right thing.
Leave him be now, you said your part, now its up to him.

talaniman

Why wait end it now and don't look back. I've read your other post and know for a fact you don't need him and you know you can do a lot better. Celebrate your new freedom with love for you!

Chery

Hi dear. Thanks for sharing this with us. You will not get a 'pep talk' from me, since you know yourself that anything can happen from this point on. What you do with what happens has probably already gone through your mind in several 'plays' by now. But as all plays that are not written by those in the roles, they can take unexpected turns and I sincerely hope that you have prepared a contingency plan either way.

You also know that we will be here for you at any time, to help share your joy or help heal your wounds. So, please keep us informed and stay with us.

Wishing you all the best,

Chery

valinors_sorrow

I applaud you giving it a sensible deadline, Blaze! Most people who take the kind of actions you did forget that essential part all together.... which only makes them look not serious about it. I can see you are. I certainly understand that you gotta do all that you need to in order to walk away not nagging yourself to death afterwards. Just be sure if and when it ends, don't end up grieving for what "could have been", but grieve instead for what was -- that's another easy tripping place for some people too. Offers you some of my strength to do yourself right in this.