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Kalee1600 · May 12, 2009, 06:50 AM

I need to get my ex boyfriend back, but I don't know how to. Anyway he gives me such mixed feelings, I talked to him yesterday about me and him getting back together, but where I had slept with his best friend, I don't know what I was even thinking that night when I did that either. Anyway I asked him if me and him could get back togther and he said no because I slept with his best friend, I don't know what to do now. I told him I regreted it and everything. Then a day or so ago I tried to call him at work and he wouldn't talk to me at all, he hung up on me. Anyway I love him sooo much and I really want him back, but I kind of feel like its kind of impossible because where he got with another girl like as soon as me and him split. Anyway why is he so mad at me for doing what I did? I didn't cheat on him or anything, so why does he think he has a reason to be mad at me? Do you think he still has feelings for me? I don't know what to do here, this situation is really messed up right now, I seriously NEED someone's HELP! I LOVE HIM AND I WANT HIM BACK.

Romefalls19 · May 12, 2009, 06:57 AM

I can tell you why he's so mad, you slept with his best friend! For a lot of guys, I may be wrong, but that's a "no fly" zone. He is going to be angry at you and your friend, for awhile. It took me 3 years to talk to my ex who slept with just a friend of mine and we were broken up for awhile.

There's a line that you don't cross and you crossed it. I don't see you two getting back together, it's better to just move on and go NC

kctiger · May 12, 2009, 07:01 AM

You slept with his best friend... nuff said. I have been there myself. My friend was able to forgive me (totally different situation), but at any rate, it is hard to deal with. I would pity my best friend had the shoe been on the other foot. Some people take that stuff VERY personally, as they have a right to do so. Back off for awhile, and fish in a new pond as well.

talaniman · May 12, 2009, 07:21 AM

What part of you slept with his best friend, and wants nothing to do with you, are you not understanding?

The fact you can't understand the betrayal is telling. How would you be feeling if he slept with your best friend?

inertia · May 12, 2009, 09:13 AM

Happened to me too. To illustrate a point, you have just given him mental images of you with a man he knows very well being intimate with each other. Those images probably repulse and disgust him. I'm usually not too harsh with folks on here but you are damaged goods to this guy. Knowing that an ex is sleeping with anybody is kind of disconcerting but when it's someone you know it actually turns your stomach (not in a lovesick way). When I found out my ex did this, I asked when she was going to make her way around the whole circle of friends. What could have possibly been thinking? He'd get jealous and beg you to come back? Guys with any sense of pride will never touch a girl who has slept with their friend. Sorry, but your best bet is to probably remove yourself from this situation entirely.

liz28 · May 12, 2009, 09:38 AM

He doesn't want you back so the best thing for you to do he move on. Stop calling and begging him to be with you because he doesn't want to be bother.

He is your ex so leave it that way.

Btw, I would be upset by what you did but not only at you but at the friend as well. However, if the both of you are two consenting adult both of you knew exactly what your doing.

Let him go, accept that what the two of you had is in the past, stop bothering him, heal yourself, learn from your actions, and move on.

charlee17 · Apr 13, 2011, 01:06 PM

I'm in the same boat sort of. I broke up wit my ex and slept wit his best mate the next day. We had a thing before me and my ex were together but never really did anything. My ex got wit some girl at the guy hu I slept withs birthday party and I was shocked, he doesn't know I slept wit him, only thing is were all in the same group of mates... me and his best mate are lyk ***** buddies atm... im nt really sure if this is a good thing?

chuff · Apr 13, 2011, 03:34 PM

Kalee the slut posted this two years ago and never came back. God it's one thing to be a slut and another to be stupid, but man the combination is really something.