I've been single for nearly a year. I am 24 and good looking. I go out and socialise regularly and i do meet guys howver either they are attached or they are long and nothing progresses or they just want sex. I am so worried that I will end up alone and lonely- im nearly 25 and panicking. All my friends are attached and I often feel like the loser- i get jealous and i do not want to be jealous of my friends. I really want a relationship I have so much to give and i really would like to share a special bond with someone. I've had three boyfriends- my first cheated on me and got someone else pregnant we were together for 3 years the second wanted to keep us a secret and the third was a womanoiser also. I went on a date last night and before hand the guy and I had texted alot and spoken on the phone and he seemed really sweet and considerate. However he spent alot of the time on the phone to a female- who could have been a friend I guess however i found that rude nevertheless and then we were talking about a particular club in town and he asked me if there were girls ther- stupid question as of course ther are- but its like he wanted to wind me up he seemed so different form his messages. He then asked me for a hug and I Refused because it felt forced and i like things to happen naturally and i felt like i was on the spot- i know its only a hug but thats how i felt then he sulked. My question is am i doomed to be single forever? I feel like its never my turn and im discouraged with things never going anywhere with guys. Are there people out there who end up being single forever? Will i end up being one of them- i feel left out and less of a person without a partner- like everyone is thinking there is something wrong with me. I dont think there is im well educated, witty , understanding, reliable and good looking - no im not everyones taste but im not unattractive- so what is the problem-how can i improve my chances of finding the one?

Geoffersonairplane

Well, it sounds to me as if you go for the wrong type of man. You do sound like a very thoughtful person who has considerable depth. This is why I think you are going for the wrong type of man and can do better than you have got so far. I doubt very much you will be single forever since you have the quality of being attractive on the inside too and that is more important than anything. Why not stop focusing so much on getting a partner and just focus on you? So what if your friends are all partnered off? I am 27 next month and I have been single for 6 months since my ex left. I still consider myself very young and I am in no rush after my ex left to find someone else to get engaged to e.t.c. These days, people get married later anyway and I know you are not suggesting you want marriage, you are just yearning for a soul mate, for companionship, but sometimes and quite often, it happens when we least expect it and I put my bet on this happening in this way for you.

Geoffersonairplane

And you are no loser just because you don't have a boyfriend at the moment, you really are not that so quit calling yourself one..

Kitty Kat

Thanks for your reply and advice- very much appreciated and nice of you.

K

Wildcat21

Plesase!!! YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE WORRYING ABOUT THIS!!!!!

Be busy doing other things - Mr. Right doesn't come along until you least expect it.

TrueFaith

hey kittly im young as well iv had so many relationships and i have found that it takes a stronger person to be alone that to be with someone.

we could all easy stay with someone that we kinda like.. but there are the few of us that wanna be with the right one!. and if it takes a little more time so be it. but in the end it is so worth it. the whole world is like oh get married at the age of 10 have kids etc live happy. trust me its not like that..

we make our own rules in life..

youll find someone who is perfect for you

dont you think thats worth the wait?

take care

Geoffersonairplane

Agree with Wildcat, give it another 10 years before you start being concerned and even then, does it really matter??

You will find the one>>IN TIME

Don't let society dictate where you think you should be at.

Geoffersonairplane

That is not to say that even a 34 year old should worry either because some people don't find the one until their 40's or even beyond...

Jiser

Wow certainly got along time then!

Wildcat21

I do like the fact she is picky. Very important - she knows that their major jerks out there.