I just got out of a serious relationship with my ex girfriend after over 3 years and now well I just need someone to hang out with like someone to care about or someone to be by myside for moral support. I need someone a friend to do something with. I feel empty is it becasue Im lonely and what would or could I do to solve this and get that empty feeling filled, any ideas. Its been nice lately I have been hanging out with this girl lately she's perfect someone I can hang out with someone I can talk to and someone whos going to be there for me the only problem is shes moving and shes engaged well she might be breaking the engagment off but shes still moving she likes me and I like her but nothing will happen i wish I could just find someone I could be good friends with someone who I can talk to and hang out with.....Man Im lonely any ideas?

jeffatl

Easy man, It NATURAL. You were in a pretty long relationship, so its natural for you to feel like things are not right every now and then. Do you not have any friends you can hang out with? If not, then go out and meet some people. Maybe from work or something. Ive been single now for about 7 months and I get lonely now and then, but thats ok. You need to be conforitable alone BEFORE you get together with someone. Are you not the same person that posted the "clingy" thread? If so, this should be an eye opener. Im not trying to put you down or anything, just trying to help you see some things. DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THAT IS ENGAGED!!!!! She is not going to leave him for you, and if she does, will you really trust her not to do the same thing to you? Sounds like you LOVE attention from women, heck we all do. You need to calm yourself down a bit. How long have you been out of your relationship? I bet not long enough. It took me about 3 months or so to get comforitble with myself, but I did it, so can you. Also, from my experience, you never find someone when you look. Take it easy and just meet some new people, network. If not, you will be right back where you are now in no time.

wrongful hurtings

I have frends but they were the same ones that my ex gf had so they hang out with her and well you get the picture. About the whole trust thing if she did break up with her fiance, the answer is yes and I have a logical reason for saying that answer. Here is my explaination, I used to believe that once a cheater always a cheater, until I realized that if I believed that then I would also have to believe that people couldn't change. Well people can change its hard and you have to want to, but it can be done. So with the whole trust thing if something did ever happen I would trust her, because I believe that she doesn't really love this guy because if she did she would never want to lose him or do anything that could possibly lose him. In other words I believe if someone loved somone so much no matter what of there history they wouldn't cheat. And well yea I would trust her I would have no reason not to. Right after she cheated she told him the next time she saw him. So I give her credit for that its not like she tried to hide it from him. I really respect that and becasue of the quality I could trust her because if something happened she would tell me the next time she saw me so yea.

fredg

HI,
Be thankful you are having issues with adjusting from losing a girlfriend; not a Divorce!
Calm down some, date other girls. Dating someone who is engaged is only adding more confusion. Meet some new girls.
After my first 7 yrs of marriage ended in Divorce, it took about a year to be ready for some "serious" dating again.
Give yourself some time, maybe a few months. Many of us like living with, or having someone. If it doesn't work out, then find someone else.
Best wishes.

DJ 'H'

Perfectly normal to feel the way you do. Just got to keep your chin up, stay busy and give yourself some time to get over your ex.

Soon you will find yourself again and find doing things on your own as an individual is not so bad. Once you are content with yourself and your life a special girl will come knocking when you least expect it.

At the moment you are just rebounding - give yourself some time, concetrate on keeping busy (your fav hobby etc) and things will get better.

talaniman

I can't add a lot to the very good advice already given except to be patient and have fun!

phillysteakandcheese

Get a dog.

Really. The unconditional love of a pet, and the time and effort required to take care of "another living creature" does alot for a person. It helps with healing your soul, and filling the void of "need".

I guess it doesn't have to be a dog. A cat or bird or even fish can help you do the same thing.

For a single guy though, I think a dog is best because walking your dog in the park is an awesome way to meet women!

Chery

Staying at home, feeling lonely and lost will only lead to depression. Go out and meet new people, find a new club or social gathering and start new.

A pet is not a bad idea, but if you travel, make sure the neighbor that takes care of it is of the opposite sex and a likely candidate, it might get to be more than that of a pet-sitter. Most single people who watch you pets will get to learn about you and how you keep you 'home' while taking care of them, and just might surprise you with a warm welcome.

Good luck,and keep us posted.