Hi all!
Its been a while since i posted but im back again!

My man and i havnt spoke since Sat evening. Well here goes :-

Sat late afternoon i got my period and when i get my period im very much in pain and become extra senstive that i know.
My man was playing loud music and he knows how i cant sleep when music is loud, i asked him to lower it while i go to bed to rest for an 1hr, he did lower it but very slightly, so i didnt sleep i just snoozed, as i got up 1 hr later, he was on sofa fast asleep! So im pain but he falls asleep, ok, i know that isnt his fault.
Anhyhow, later that evening he woke up but didnt move from the sofa, it was 8pm and we were both hungry, but the lazy a** didnt even get up to cook dinner, so i got up to do it myself. I asked him to help me, but he just didnt move from the sofa... that so annoyed me, im in agony but i still get up and cook for his royal highness. After we ate, he didnt even say THANK YOU!!! How rude!
I was so upset, annoyed and angry too!

Anyways... we didnt speak all evening i went to bed at 11pm, got up on Sunday and started to tidy up the kitchen. He wakes up at noon, makes himself some soup, doesnt even offer me any lunch!!!! Then 30mins later he says im popping out for abit... and off he goes!!
He came back in afternoon, and i told him i thought he was acting really rude and he was ungrateful... but he didnt say anything!

This morning he woke up for work and left no bye nothing!!!

What is wrong with him????

This was all sudden... till Fri all was fine....

kp2171

well... this is what i have to say about the silent treatment.

i used to get pi$$ed when i didnt think my wife was listening to me when we had a disagreement. id just stop talking to her for a bit. no big deal, but more distant i guess. early in our relationship.

then one day i realized that it didnt matter. i could shut up all i wanted and it never got her to realize how upset i was. in fact, after i joked to her at how i realized my "punishing her" by my silence wasnt working, she told me she didnt know she was being punished, and that she was sad that it was over! =)

in other words, she unknowingly enjoyed the fact i was shutting the hell up.

so.... is he being a jerk. sure. a bit. more than normal? i cant say. you cant be too ticked at a person when you are feeling like crap and they dont get it some.... you are feeling it, not them.

and i dont know your relationship with him. is he ignoring you more? are you looking for problems? sounds a little like the latter, but i could be wrong. maybe hes insensitive and youre just getting it.

can you live with it? is he like this more often than not. are you looking for a fight? hard to say.

some of what youve described seems to me to be within the norm of some guys.

flower81

We havnt gone through this stage for months, many months......
Im not trying to start a fight at all!!! I hate being like this?

Why is he being so rude, and unappriciative??
Why is it the norm... why are men like this?!

What should i do, carry on ignoring him. I think he owes me an apologgy!

flower81

Ohh!!!
Just now my colleague mailed me.... and i found out that her husband yesterday gave my man some pron!!!! OMG!!!!
Im not pi*sed off.......... but he didnt tell me!
Any wise ideas of how to go about this situation?!

Krs

I suppose as you said this doesnt happen often, then dont worry about it too much!
However think wisely of how to approach him. After all you did nothin worng and his actions were rude, yes!

Maybe you could use the porn as a way to start a conversation in a joking maner?!

flower81

He really annoyed me thou!

Am i expecting to much, by expecting an apology or even and quick email or a text.... nothing.. why is he so rude?
he knows i think he is rude because i told him so yest... although he didnt even acknowledge that!!!!

flower81

he is gettin to me!
KRS I msged him a MMS a slight joke about the porn, and asked if he recvd it... all he replied was YES...




Tonight his mother is comin over for dinner, and im gonna have to cook for them and ijust cant be bothered now!
Now im angry!

Besides he is going away with work for 3 days thurs...

Someone HELP ME

flower81

anyone else's opinion will be grateful

talaniman

Calm down and relax. If this is the same guy you've been with for 5 years, you both should know enough to be able to talk about things in a more constructive manner. By now you should also know what to expect, and you can't just fly off the handle because its time for your cycle. If you could communicate better, you would know when and how to approach each other without the lingering anger. He may be rude, but you'll never get an apology the way your going about it. And from what YOU wrote sounds to me like you were looking for a fight, but my own knowledge tells me that you vent and need a hug and a little support during this cycle. He hasn't gotten that understanding yet, so be patient and get over the anger and set the stage for some honest communication. He's on your side, but will need time and talking to before he can know what to do. Us men are just slow like that.

flower81

Thanks Tal! Yes same guy!

Now im fuming, yes.
I have emailed him, expressing how i feel and what i thought of him. but he hasnt replied! you know why is it ME emailing him and text msging him.. no wonder he takes me for granted

You seem to know me more becuase that is what i crave for is a hug.... not to ignore me.. and dont appreciate me!

Im not using my cycle as an excuse as i actually made it clear that i know i become extra sensitive but i cant control it.

I have tried to communicate to say that he upset me and he was rude an ungrateful. what more can i do?
All i want is an apology and thanks for dinner would have been nice, under my circumstances i still got of my a** to cook him dinner
Im not going to put him on a pedestal after all he upset me.

Tonight his mum is over for dinner and i cant b asked with it, all under false pretences.!