I still LOVE my ex boyfriend!

xXxShAwTaExXx · #1 Mar 27, 2007, 01:58 AM

HEY!!

Im a bit lost in my relationship well not a relationship anymore but i still love my ex boyfriend and its getting on my nerve's i cant stand it he'z on my mind every second of the day and he just made it wost by getting a new girlfriend

I should tell him how i feel but it's just to difficult with him he's not the listening type of guy i just dont understand him sometime's im trying my best to get over him but it's not working

He flirt's with other girl's right in front of me and i think he know's i still like him but the thing with him he can get any girl wich mean's aah i dont know anyway SOMEBODY please HELP me im desperate and in need of help....

..::..ThAnKyOu..::..

Cobrastirke · Mar 27, 2007, 02:10 AM

I know exactly what you are going through, just a tiny bit different. I'm 16, love my ex girlfriend but she is currently on the rebound. We are talking, and hoping to work things out, but I'm receiving mixed messages.

Anyway, the best thing is just keep yourself busy. He obviously did not respect you enough to listen to you, so why bother when there are so many more guys out there who are willing to listen to you, and offer you so much more? Trust me, it gets easier everyday, even if it is by the tiniest bit.

"Time heals everything"

So again, just focus on yourself. You need to find out what YOU want, who you are, and more importantly build up your self respect and esteem.

Good luck.

Jiser · Mar 27, 2007, 02:19 AM

Tell us more about your situation.

Now is the time to re invent yourself and your life. This is for yourself and no one else.

1) Please abide by no contact - ignorance is bliss (not sure if this is possible in your circumstances)
2) Go out and have a gr8 time with your friends (party)
3) Date other guys if possible and flirt big time (nothing serious)
4) Ever wanted to do something in your life like travel, a hobby or see a band you've always wanted to see? - Now is the time!
5) Its gonna hurt for a while - but trust me your not alone, most people on this planet have gone through the pain your going through right now and whatever didn't kill them made them stronger and wiser.
6) Treat this as a life experience and be glad it happened to you now and not when you had children or were more commited
7) Never be Dependant on anyone else apart from yourself as you really are the only person who can make your life what it is
8) Your ex is not dead and hes obviously having a great time without you - the best revenge is to be happy yourself as he obviously is having an awesome time!!
9) You may be friends again or you may get back together but at the moment you have to let go and move on with your life, you have only one life so don't wait your entire life for something.
10) Here is a quote to make you think: The greatest effort is not concerned with results :]

origins13 · Mar 27, 2007, 03:03 AM

I understand how you're feeling now. You should give yourself time to heal. Don't rush but don't give up with the healing process.

I got out from a five years relationship few months ago and my ex has a new gf right soon. I was completely devastated and heart-broken. But I couldn't help myself thinking about him almost every day and it's killing me.

What I do is to keep myself busy and maintain no contacts. NO CONTACTS is very important. Also, I would make a list of good and bad things about him. Not surprisly, the list of bad things outnumbered the good things! Then I would tell myself how lucky I am to be out of the relationship and move on.

Time will heal! Take care!

diya · Mar 27, 2007, 12:06 PM

You know what...if you run after someone/something and if it's meant to be yours...it will come to you but if it is was never meant to be yours..it will go farther if you try to catch it. Somethings in life are just meant to be taken as it is.....sounds like this guy didn't have anything to offer to you and when someone is not into you mentally, what would you have gained even if you had him with you....buddy, just let go...take a deep breath, hold for 2 sec and exhale. Do it 3 times..you'll feel better. Each one of us goes thru problems in relations and trust me, no one, absolutely NO ONE is worth losing you sleep over....you are your best buddy....move on with a smile



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