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Hi all!
Its been a while since i posted but im back again!
My man and i havnt spoke since Sat evening. Well here goes :-
Sat late afternoon i got my period and when i get my period im very much in pain and become extra senstive that i know.
My man was playing loud music and he knows how i cant sleep when music is loud, i asked him to lower it while i go to bed to rest for an 1hr, he did lower it but very slightly, so i didnt sleep i just snoozed, as i got up 1 hr later, he was on sofa fast asleep! So im pain but he falls asleep, ok, i know that isnt his fault.
Anhyhow, later that evening he woke up but didnt move from the sofa, it was 8pm and we were both hungry, but the lazy a** didnt even get up to cook dinner, so i got up to do it myself. I asked him to help me, but he just didnt move from the sofa... that so annoyed me, im in agony but i still get up and cook for his royal highness. After we ate, he didnt even say THANK YOU!!! How rude!
I was so upset, annoyed and angry too!
Anyways... we didnt speak all evening i went to bed at 11pm, got up on Sunday and started to tidy up the kitchen. He wakes up at noon, makes himself some soup, doesnt even offer me any lunch!!!! Then 30mins later he says im popping out for abit... and off he goes!!
He came back in afternoon, and i told him i thought he was acting really rude and he was ungrateful... but he didnt say anything!
This morning he woke up for work and left no bye nothing!!!
Your all excited and frustrated now. Stop texting him as he is already frustrated himself, as he has no clue what you need from him. You may think 5 years is a long time, but its not. Your still learning. It took me a longer time to know what to do with my wife who goes thru the same thing you do on the cycle, and I remember how frustrating it was. Now's not the time to negotiate as understanding and weathering the storm is more important. Better to call his parents and explain nicely how now is a bad time for you and reschedule this dinner, his mother should understand, and then find a quiet spot, take the Mydol or whatever and take a long nap. There is no point in trying to talk to any one now because It will come off as an emotional rant, but in a few days you will better able to handle things in a calmer manner. He'll learn if you teach him. I did. Talk to each other and learn to listen.
I get wierd moods also around that time, and when i was in a relationship i would explain that im having "those days" and to please excuse my behaviour
He would be so nice then and make dinners etc.
So when he comes home tonight tell him you apologize for your behaviour and that should get good results
Rol, but what have I done wrong to aplogise..?
Apologise for what? for cookin him dinner when i was in pain?
and for letting him have his music loud while i wanted to sleep?
In the future i will advise him that its close to cycle time so to beware of my moods, maybe that will change.
But for last wkends episodes.. i dont think i should say sorry
Rol, but what have I done wrong to aplogise..?
Apologise for what? for cookin him dinner when i was in pain?
and for letting him have his music loud while i wanted to sleep?
In the future i will advise him that its close to cycle time so to beware of my moods, maybe that will change.
But for last wkends episodes.. i dont think i should say sorry
While I understand, you must know you're scaring me, so I can imagine your man is shaking in his boots.
How many days left?
wait till its over and then explain nicely how your mood changes at that time as you feel such pain. tell him you would love some affection and help from him at that time.
yes but how did you ask him?
Did you say it nicely or in a grumpy voice?
yes warn him anymore . He probably does not realise...I mean how can a guy possibly understand the mood changes which occur at this time.
believe it or not.. i asked him to help me, really nicely!
First i msged him from the bedroom while i was 'trying' to sleep but he didnt reply... so then i got up 20mins later, found him asleep, so i waited till he woke up and asked him as nicely as possibly!
Just tell him what you need at this time of the month.
Maybe he was tired also if he just woke up on the sofa (i know how that feels!)and didnt feel like going to cook dinner.
<<He came back in afternoon, and i told him i thought he was acting really rude and he was ungrateful... but he didnt say anything!
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That could have been comminucated in a better way for example. Did he know why you thought he was rude? Men are not mind readers, tell them exactly what you want.
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