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Women change and grow and with growing older so does their taste in their mate. Some women maturity levels are far beyond their years and often times they out grow or seek something more. Women usually give signs to their partner before they actually tell them it is over. It is usually something that happens gradually, but you should watch out for. It is not that some women intend to hurt their partners it is simply because they are blossoming into womanhood. Changing their taste from clothing, to music, their friends even change, perhaps their career. Change and growth is inevitable. Some however grow together while others grow apart. So what causes her to be so moody? Believe it or not women go through a lot of hormone fluctuations and No I am not stating that it is okay to play with someone heart and by no means is it an excuse to make up and break up. But sometimes we can be an emotional rollercoaster. However, when something is over we usually give signs, and you need to look out for them. Don’t listen to what she tells you but go by her actions..
First sign,
She begins to slowly change her priorities, and limiting the time you spend together. She may suggest you go out with your friends, and perhaps she may feel she is being smothered. She may even take it as far as to give hints and tell you how her best friend boyfriend is so different from you. She is giving you the hint that you should probably back off. But you love her so much and think that she is reacting hastily and being irrational in her request. Instead of backing off you try harder. Trying to convince her that she is making a mistake!
Ouch! This is a mistake right there, not only did you not listen to her. You clearly became the opposite of what she is asking, and enraging her all the more. Women often would call this as being too (possessive).
Later, this will become her excuse as to why it just won’t work. She feels she is being smothered and feels trapped that you are not listening and understanding that she just wanted that little bit of time.
Second Sign
She is uninterested in sex! she doesn’t want to get intimate anymore. She slowly begins to push your hand away or not hold hands with you. Those passionate kisses once shared are now a mere lame kiss on the cheek or peck on the lips. She laughs it off when you try to move in or make an excuse” I am not feeling good” or perhaps it’s that time of the month, and last my stomach hurts. Whatever it is she doesn’t want to get intimate with you. If she does I bet it’s because you initiated it. This is another sign.
If you ask her why doesn’t want to get intimate she may simply say because you want it more than I do, and she will probably blame you for being a sexaholic, even if this is not the case.
Third sign
Less time together is spent with you. She rather go dancing, or hang out with friends, and do it without you calling her. She may even take it as far to turn off her cell phone. Telling you her battery died. Again she is not acting too much like a girlfriend anymore, but perhaps a witch you which you never met, But by this point she feels this may be her only option because you didn’t catch on to the first sign.
Fourth sign
She begins to criticize and complain about everything you do. The way you talk, chew, sleep, work, kiss, type will simply annoy her. You try to do everything she wants but it just isn’t enough. You are wasting your precious time, because at this point she is totally annoyed, and could care less. You are making her priority and you are becoming her option.
Fifth sign
She no longer wants you to come to family functions. It is probably because she already told the family that the two of you are drifting apart. She may have given hints to your friends, or her own. Everyone around you knows the relationship is over except you because you were too busy trying to fulfill her needs. When all she needed and wants is to be alone, you ignored all the signs. All because you loved her, and became afraid to loose her .So you cling tighter… and tighter… while she is going in the opposite direction.
Last sign
She tells you it is over! OMG, she just broke up with you. You are devastated heart broken, you thought it was perfect. Nothing was wrong. How could she? When? Where? What? Your whole world crumbles all because you ignored those signs.
This relationship has drifted to another island because you let your priorities get out of order. You loved her so much that you ignored the signs month ago, and just prolonged the inevitable. Heartbreak! It hurts like hell, she is now a witch! You began to hate her. She says she loved you but is no longer in love with you. You can’t decipher the difference. Your outlook on women are shattered, you inspire to pay back the innocent because the one person whom you truly loved ripped your heart out.
Guess what? Your world isn’t over. You just stepped off track for a little and didn’t prioritize your importance. It doesn’t make you a fool, it doesn’t make you vulnerable. It just makes you human. As some point in your life you will outgrow something. You may even be on the other side of the fence, perhaps loose interest in something you once loved. It doesn’t mean you are a failure if you gave your all. Perhaps you now know what to look for before it is too late.
Preparation and healing are now your next goals. Loving should never stop because someone disappointed you. Look for signs. Go with your intuition. Don’t hate anyone for what they have done for you because we have to take responsibility to some degree as we do allow it to happen.
Do you see months ago, this could have been prevented if the proper steps were taken, but how would you know this for the future if you haven’t experienced this heartbreak! Do you understand and see why we find love to loose love, and loose love to find love. It’s all about finding out who we are, and how much we should take. Hating and regret never will solve anything it’s about Loving and forgiving that allows us to move on with a vengeance. …
Do you understand and see why we find love to loose love, and loose love to find love. It’s all about finding out who we are, and how much we should take. Hating and regret never will solve anything it’s about Loving and forgiving that allows us to move on with a vengeance. …
Your insights are so true and it may be a painful learning experience. We learn to cope with ourselves, and others, and what ever else life throws at us.
Great post, but my problem is, there is no more room in my signature, AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!
Cause life is kinda like that you don't go looking for advice until something bad has happened. Live and learn kinda thing.
However i do think this should be stickied for those of us who were lucky enough to come here while they still have a chance.
True, mrchef. I have learned quite a bit from this little thing here.
I will definatly look out for these signs in the future. THANKS!
After my last break up, last Wednesday, I came here, and I have learned so much, lol. I think I can start a healthier relationship with somebody now. This forum has helped me out so much. Thanks everybody!
***Now that we can recognize the signs that a break up coming, if we want to, what do we do to prevent that break up? Somebody here needs to make that thread to.
***Now that we can recognize the signs that a break up coming, if we want to, what do we do to prevent that break up? Somebody here needs to make that thread to.
I thought the answer was pretty bloody obvious already. You listen to her request, and follow it. Don't be clingy, and give her space.
good point Kaitou,
but I still believe that relaionships take work and effort. I think if a couple can recognize these signs, and talk and work things out, then the relationship can be saved. Not being clingy and giving her space at a time like that i completly agree with though.
Well, i think making a post like that would be quite difficult, since every couple is different. No one can give a step by step on how to communicate.
So you're absolutely right, the relationship could be saved. But first you need to give the girl space, so that she becomes willing to open up to you again. That's when the couple can start communicating. Giving space to her is also giving space to yourself, it probably allows both of you to re-evaluate the relationship.
I guess it's all about communication, respect, and compromising.
, I came here, and I have learned so much, lol. I think I can start a healthier relationship with somebody now. This forum has helped me out so much. Thanks everybody!
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