[sarlar1]

Ok so my story is long but I don't have a lot of people to listen to me, I met my now ex boyfriend at a get together about 2 years ago, my best friend said she knew he was in love the first time he looked at me, we ended up hanging out all night, and for the next 8 months just became the best of friends that anyone could become, I talked to him about all my boy problems and even though he was so in love with me and wanted to be more than friends he listened. He would have done anything to make me happy. And he would always try to become more than my friend, no matter how much I told him no he wasn't going to stop trying, and eventually we got together. In the beginning everything was as perfect as can be, but isn't that how all relationships are? And we decided to move in together which now I know wasn't a very smart decision, we lived in a little 5th wheel on his dads property. It was small and croweded but it was big enough just for us, eventually we moved into a house that his dad owns and everything was going great until one day I came home and hisf riends were at our house, this wasn't anything unusual and I really didn't mind, so we were playing cards all night and j ust having fun, well I was outside and he came out and sat with me, and tried making small talk about my day and such, then out of nowhere he says" I think its better if we breakup, we both want 2 different things and I just want to hang out with my friends right now" I tried not to cry, so I got up and left. We talked about it a little bit and he said he didn't want a g/f for a really really long time and all this other bs. So about 2 weeks after we break up he's already hanging out with another girl, a girl that he works with whom he used to make fun of. And now he brags to my sister about them hooking up and stuff and I just don't know what to do, its so hard to lose your best friend in the entire world, I also had to go grab some of my things from the house one night and I walked in and could tell he had been crying, I was crying to and he wouldn't give me a good reason why he couldn't be my friend, or anything so I told him I never wanted to talk to him again and that was the lasttime I talked to him. Ive tried moving on... going out with my friends every night, its just not working and its already been a month since this has happened what do I do?

[SAB123]

You have to give it time, the next 2-3 months are going to be the most difficult. Cry, be angry, let it out. But also try to heal yourself by still hanging out with friends and STAY busy. Read the questions on here, you are not alone. If you need to talk come here. There are people on here yhat care. And for some reason he tries to contact you. Leave him alone and get healty.

[sarlar1]

Well we started talking again yesterday and hanging out... so Im really confused and don't know if its because he cares or because he wants to get some

[SAB123]

If he cared, you wouldn't be talking to me?

[ceriphante]

OK first up he's done something very disrespectful towards you even if it was a lie he was bragging to your sister about how he hooked up with another girl straight after he broke up with you.

That would constitute : instant dismissal in my relationship book if a girl did that to me..
The hardest part is to completely let go and leap empty handed into the void we call life but that is also what will probably give you the most happiness in the end.

Seriously if he tries to make contact, cut him off, ignore him, change your phone number if you have to, keep him out of your life for say about 3-6 months keep yourself busy study/work/friends maybe a new flame and see if after that time you still feel for this disrespectful ex..

Good luck!

[sarlar1]

I can't help it he's always been such a sweet guy, and my best friend... its just to hard

[SAB123]

If he was so sweet, why is he bragging to your sister how he hooked up?

[ceriphante]

Learn the hard way then if you have to hey.