[redneckmom]

I love my husband but it seems I fantasize about women and want to have sex with women then him. We do recreational drugs at times and can have lots of sex with him but if we aren't on them sex with him really doesn't interest me. When it comes to women and haven't been with many at all I get turned on at the thought of it. Am I gay even if I like the feel of a man but want a women more. I have children and I cannot live a life of being gay without causing some problems and I honestly cannot see living my life as gay. It really doesn't fit the type of person I truly am anyway. But I can't get the feeling of wanting to be with women out of my mind at all. Help am I just BI and deal with those feelings and my husband knows and has been involved. I want to be with a women by myself so what does that mean. My husband knows and doesn't have a problems with this at all. But what man really would have a problem with this at all.

[tickle]

You could discuss an open relationship with him involving female/male/female and see if he will go with that. It may solve your problem and get out out of your skin. Do have you have any female friends who would participate? You obviously still want to stay married and be involved with your children, or you would have said not.

If you repress this it will only lead to problems later on. I don't think it means you are gay, just sexually adventurous. See if you husband will agree, he may find it exciting and it may open up whole new vistas for the two of you, but only if that is the whole objective, to try something new and exciting and in my books, there is nothing wrong with it as long as you both don't want to hurt yourselves emotionally or someone else. Talk it out first and good luck !

[kyrazbak]

I too have fantasys about the opposite sex... While you may be physically -Romanticy- or Sexually attracted to the opposite sex in my opinion it doesn't mean you are gay... I think it mainly depends on your emotional state of mind... If you are emotionally atracted to the opposite sex then your sexual orientation may depend on that more so then the other three qualities...

[Fr_Chuck]

If you prefer women, why can't you see yourself being gay ( if you prefer women more, is that not what you are?

I don't mean that wrong, but are you denying your real feelings out of fear of what society thinks about the seuxal life style.

But while I would not say it is morally right ( remember I am a preacher ok) but have you discussed this with your husband,?