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Lightfrog16 · Feb 12, 2013, 03:41 AM

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months, may not seem like a long time but it means a lot. Over the past month we've been arguing and its mainly about him gradually losing contact with me. I was on the phone to his best friend last night for about an hour and he basically told me that I have to balance time for friends and time for each other. Hes told me he doesn't like talking over Facebook, his phone no longer works so he doesn't text or phone me, however he can still phone me off his house phone.. hes never done it before but he chooses not to. He used to call me and talk a lot over Facebook or whatever but he's stopped, today he told me that he doesn't want to spend lunch with me anymore. Hes stopped visiting my house and blames the reason for not coming over is because of my younger brother and sister and we always get 'disturbed' from our time alone. Which means I have to go to his house. Usually whenever he wants to see me I go over and I'm round at his as soon as.

Hes told me and so has his best friend that there is no one else involved and he's not talking to other girls in that way. He used to surprise me with adorable things, he put a candle lit dinner out which was a few months ago. As I have been kept behind a year in high school and should be in his year, he's going to college next year or maybe a little less than a year, he believes that it won't work when he goes to college. I'm scared if he meets another girl and she's better than me.

I've been so upset about everything and I want him to be the way he was a few months ago, how do I give him space? Why is he so uninterested in me now? Help me regain everything back :(

talaniman · Feb 12, 2013, 09:31 AM

You cannot regain what was, only communicate honestly to adjust and build a better foundation to move forward on. Lack off honest communications is your problem, and maybe an unwillingness on his part to make it better.

I know you are afraid of things ending soon, but he does seem to be preparing you for his leaving soon. Maybe its not losing interest in you but a growing interest in the things to come in his own life. High school to college is often a life changing event, and to give space, you must be less available for what he wants while you have something that you want, besides him, to focus on.

You are right though and it's a red flag that he expects you to do for him, but does nothing for you. That's something to pay CLOSE attention too.

fredg · Feb 12, 2013, 09:37 AM

Ten months isn't a very long time. He isn't interested anymore, it sounds like. I do hope you will meet some other people. If you are honest, respectful, and smile, you will make many friends. Best wishes, and good luck.

Lightfrog16 · Feb 12, 2013, 10:12 AM

What should I do?

talaniman · Feb 12, 2013, 10:57 AM

Get a happy social life without him. With friends, and activities you enjoy as you explore your world. Its never a good idea to be so attached to someone that you make them a priority, while you are but an option to them.

Lightfrog16 · Feb 12, 2013, 11:22 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Get a happy social life without him. With friends, and activities you enjoy as you explore your world. Its never a good idea to be so attached to someone that you make them a priority, while you are but an option to them.

Thanks a lot, I'm just abit minded right now x