Originally Posted by
mayku
My girlfriend dumped me for a guy 2 years back and just three days back I'm getting a call early morning from unknown number and its her finally calling me. We were in no contact for 2 years because she blocked me on FB and even my number. So was helpless to bring her back. Its already late she has fallen for another guy, she wants his new boyfriend back in her life because her new boyfriend has dumped her now. So she wants me to forgive her for leaving all of a sudden because she believes its my forgiveness that will cut the curse. Her new boyfriend is doing the same thing to my ex what my ex used to do to me like blocking and not picking up the calls. She's very sad now and she began talking to me with lots of crying. She told me to not wish that she would return back to me and even I do not know that given a chance do I want to get back with her after she left me? I'm not a punisher but more of a forgiver and I forgived her sometimes ago in my mind. She even called me a friend while she was crying and told me she has no friend around her. But I told her "I'm not your friend!" But in reality I do want to become her friend to get her out of this suffering and pain she's getting. I don't know what future we hold for each other. So people can you tell me how should I behave in this situation. Should I call her to check how she's feeling? Should I wish her on her birthday? By the way her birthday comes in just 2 days. Need help on this.
Hey mayku,
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. There is no wrong in becoming friends with someone you've gone out with, and to be honest, the first step in doing so is forgiveness. If you've truly forgiven her then there is no reason to be ignorant to her. Give her the friend she needs, the shoulder to cry on or the person to talk to. She could probably use it right now.
However, that it all easy if you have truly forgiven her. If she calls you and you have to ask yourself these questions,
Should I call her to check how she's feeling? Should I wish her on her birthday? By the way her birthday comes in just 2 days. Need help on this.
Then maybe you haven't forgiven her, and if you are to become her friend that is what must be done.
If you can't bring yourself to forgive, friendship is not an option as you will only poison her current state, and make her situation worse.