[jinipeyom]

My relationship is about 4 years old. We were kind of living in together. As of lately, I was very busy doing my Thesis in Architecture that I couldn't give my time to my girlfriend though we shared the same room. Meanwhile, she went out to play badminton regularly. Very unfortunately for me, she fell for a junior of about 4 years with whom she used to play badminton. We talked about it. I told her that we could end the relationship very amicably if she loved him. But she says she doesn't want to break up as she loves me and saw a lot of dreams with me in future and she is not very sure if its love with that guy. She terms it "Teenage love" with that guy, while we are in our mid twenty's. At the same time, she says she cannot stop texting or calling or meeting him. We are in good talking terms and she neither wants to break-up with me nor get committed to the other guy. I am very much in a devastated situation where I know that she loves someone else. Please give me your valuable opinions on what I should do.

[none12345]

If she can't tell the difference between who she loves, you should have some self respect and break up with her. It would save you a whole world of hurt.

[KittyLover7]

Tell her to choose or it will go on for months... I am sorry dude... my ex boyfriend told me that he had feelings for another girl too... well I left right then and still think of him everyso often but I'm independent and building my life into something great.. u are capable of doing the same thing... if I'm 18 and doing this I know you can:) haha funny thing is he called me back and said he thinks he made the wrong choice but I told him to stay with her... if they do it once they will do it again... good luck friend:)

[Sweet kid]

You should give her some space, have a break of a few weeks and like that she will know who is the guy that she really loves And she'll choose bitween you both. ;)

[talaniman]

I think if my lady of 4 years couldn't stop texting, calling, or meeting up with some dude she had a teen age love for, she would kind of need a new place to stay and a new boyfriend.

If talking can't resolve this, resolve it yourself, your way. Just because she isn't sure doesn't mean you have to be. Let her find out without you. Do her words and actions match? Not from what you wrote.

[Chima4]

If she can not show you the picture in her heart, foget her,she is not a true lover

[monsieurjj]

the wise thing to do is leave her, making yourself high value and she will respect you. And if you really do want her and you do this she will come back to you for sure because the power lies to who wants the relationship less

[LadySam]

She obviously wants to have her cake and eat it too.
It doesn't work that way, I don't think playing games is the thing to do, in the end it will only bite you in the butt.