[katt 2288]

Hi, I don't want to say my name, but I'm having a problem with my relationship. First of all, my kids are not happy here at all. They are very depressed, and my boyfriend, we live together, but have told him I need to move back where we belong.

I'm not happy here either, and he refuses to move with us, but he says he loves me. What the heck, I've done everything to show him how much I love him. I've moved in, I've changed jobs, I'm always with him, but everything seems more important to him than me, and my kids.

I'm confused. Should I go, or try and work this out? Its has been a long time now, and I have tried everything. When is he going to try? And when he is gone for a weekend, he lies to me, and its hard for me to trust him. I have to find out myself then when I confronted him, he tells me he's sorry.

Please help me



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[talaniman]

Make you and your kids happy and leave.

[Triysle]

You said it yourself - you don't trust him. Your relationship cannot be successful without trust. Since there are children involved, naturally that makes the situation more difficult. Having come from a split home, I can tell you that I am a stronger, healthier person because my mother had the courage to leave my father.

Ultimately, you have to make the decision. Are you happy with where your life is right now? You said you've sacrificed a lot for this man; is it worth potentially alienating your children and stressing yourself out further by staying with him even more? We're only hearing your side of the story, but if he truly isn't willing to contribute more, at least emotionally, then I think your course of action is clear.

~ Tee

[BK201]

If you strongly believe that he is cheating on you, and if he fails to justify, then you can opt to move out.
Why should the kids suffer, anyway?

[amicon]

Time to leave and make a new life for you and your children.

He's a waste of time and space.