[hello4522]

I have a question hopefully can get answers or ideas. Ok the mother of my 9 month old, we tired to work things being together just fights after fight. We recently stop talking and trying to work things out. So a month after that she tells me she is dating another guy, and possible likes him a lot and can see a future with him and his own baby momma drama add that he is a cop lol. So I was pissed felt used just flat out angry over everything. So couple weeks back we decided to do consoling for or sake and daughter.

So consoling went OK in a sense, after we seen the DR. we had lunch we talked a little bit about her moving on with this dude, and I told her you still have feelings for me I think you still love me and your dating this other guy, she replied I do but physical feelings so I am like OK. So we are leaving the place we ate at she is fake punching me jumoing on me pretty much flirting in a way totally confusing for me. So days went by things are good no fighting whatver we good, So I asked her can my daughter and you vist my family where I am from because they haven't seen the little one yet. I told her it would mean a lot to me to have both of you there to meet my family she agreed on that.

So we are still finemoving on along, so recently like Thursday, Friday and Saturday and Sunday she has been texting me every day dump flirting text messages last night( be home before 10pm hahaa) dump messages like that up until 11pm lastnight.


1.So I guess my question is why would she agree on consuloing talking about all our problems in the past between us when she is dating another guy?

2. Why would she fly to another state to meet all my family and friends if she is seeing another guy?

3. Flirting, texting even touching you no what areas on purpose?

[Fr_Chuck]

Maybe she wants to lead you along to keep control

Maybe she likes both of you and sees no issue dating both

But you misunderstand counseling. It is not to always get people back together, but to merely find out how you really feel, It more often leads you to understand you don't want to be together.

And you know what bothers me, I don't see any talk about the baby, your desire to see the child, that needs to be the worry, to set up visits with the child, ( not with the mother)

[JudyKayTee]

Agree with FrChuck - there's a child involved. I see no mention of visitation or support and a lot of discussion about you and the baby's mother.

How old are the two of you?