[powkick09]

A few weeks ago me and my girlfriend went on a break from our relationship. I didn't really expect it as she just came out one day saying how she needed time to herself. I am in a band that is growing in popularity and will have the opportunity in the near future to tour and everything. She says she doesn't know if she wants to be a "band gf" because I will not be their for her to come home to and have a "normal" life with. She says up until this point she feels as if the relationship has been working towards my dream and not her own of becoming a lawyer. I offered to opt out of the band and continue school to gain a career job, but that was no quick fix. She says that everything will be okay and that this is not the end. That she still loves me very much etc. She says she needs a few weeks to a month to help clear her head and decide what to do.

Were doing the no contact rule now.

[CarrotTalker]

It sounds like she gave a pretty straight forward no-nonsense answer. Be thankful for that, a lot of people here don't.

Your best bet is to simply keep living your life for the next month and see how things progress with her.

You really have to ask yourself though, do you want to change your career/life choice for this girl? It sounds like you might have to give up being in the band. What about that is preventing her from becoming a lawyer?

It's also a strange sign when she asks for a break, instead of trying to talk things through with you, it might be a way of letting you down slowly/easily. No one can tell but time.

[srimira]

Give her some time to think about it...
But make sure that she is clear in what the decision she is about to take,.
She should not be half minded. Talk to her that you will spend time with her. Also think about your carrier. If you think is something really honest in her reason think if you can adjust for her or you can go on with your higher studies...
Because life is once... live with the one who care about you... do whatever you wish... non living things can't make you much happy but the living thing your girlfriend in front of you can make you so happy...
But she should be clear if you do you are studies and get a busy traveling job, then she should understand that situation also... explain both positive and negative...
Stay with your girlfriend...

[talaniman]

She says she doesn't know if she wants to be a "band gf" because I will not be their for her to come home to and have a "normal" life with. She says up until this point she feels as if the relationship has been working to wards my dream and not her own of becoming a lawyer

She told you straight up what she wants, and doesn't want. Now leave her alone, to get what she wants. Let her pursue her dreams and you pursue yours. Don't complicate it see what happens. She will surely let you know when she makes up her mind, and leave her alone until then.