Uncertain, I’m glad your seeking some help. You don’t give your age but I’m assuming your young and this might be your first “real” girlfriend. This relationship is not healthy and it’s not right what she’s doing to you, and it’s filled with excuses. To be honest, I’d rather be alone than to have your girlfriend. I hope you’ll be open enough to let me take you through your 3 posts…
Originally Posted by
uncertain
My girlfriend has been in a long relationship with a married man (maybe five years) and she continued this relationship for the first few months we were dating.
There are so many problems in that statement. The first is your girlfriend doesn’t have the character to stay out of someone’s marriage. In the old days they used to be called home wreckers. Today we call them whores. The second problem is YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE. Forget the fact he’s married. She’s still seeing someone else.
Originally Posted by
uncertain
He would call her every morning from his work. Whenever she would try to leave him he would keep calling and mailing gifts and calling. She has to unplug her phone to avoid him. After they didn't talk for a while he went to her house. I knew about the married guy, but he didn't know about me. My girlfriend and I broke up many times because I tried to force her to leave him. She never saw him while we were dating, but she talked to him on the phone.
That is all one big contradiction. She wanted to leave him but she COULDN“T. You told her to leave him but she WOULDN’T. She unplugged her phone but then took his calls. This just in….She never quit talking to him.
Originally Posted by
uncertain
She also lost her virginity to this guy.
Irrelevant and probably a lie. Most women usually work there way up to whore who sleeps with married man status. You don’t just jump into that one on your first attempt.
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uncertain
I think now she has realized that this guy won't leave his wife.
Really? I knew it in the first sentence. Not to say that women don’t get strung along in these situations. But while there being strung along they usually don’t string someone else with them.
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uncertain
She has told me that she has ended the relationship and wants to be with only me.
And you believe that based on her history?
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uncertain
Now she seems like she loves me.
Really? Let me go back and reread every single sentence here……….. Yeah I didn’t see any love.
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uncertain
But can I trust her?
If you can’t trust a woman that openly sleeps with a married man, while stringing along another guy, who can you trust? In other words. NO.
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uncertain
Would this kind of woman just cheat on me with someone else?
She already has.
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uncertain
Will this married guy keep harassing her?
Only when she stops him.
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uncertain
I really love this girl and I want to be with her. But I'm not sure if it is impossible because of all that has happened.
I still can’t believe you want to be with her. But yeah it’s going to be impossible and she’s going to cheat, and your going to get hurt and left in the end.
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uncertain
I don't understand the psychology of why women date married men.
Attention, gifts, mystery, secrecy, freedom of no commitment.
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uncertain
She seems like such a sweet girl.
You are truly out of your mind.
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uncertain
I can't understand a situation like this. I just want to know if it will ever really end.
When you leave it will.
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uncertain
I also forgot to mention she recently told the married man about me and he said he doesn't care. Which of course he doesn't - he's married. He's just using this poor girl.
And in turn that …ah hem “poor girl” is using you.
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uncertain
Is it possible that she is just naive?
No, No that’s not possible. However you are incredibly naïve.
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uncertain
She thinks that the married man loves her.
And you think a woman cheating on a married man loves you? Give me a break!
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uncertain
I really love this girl and I want to marry her.
Why? Do you not enjoy life? What did you do to deserve this?
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uncertain
Other than having had a relationship with a married man she's perfect.
Yeah, if you she didn’t have you two, I’d think about asking her out.
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uncertain
Is there any way I can know if she might change and become totally faithful to me?
She’s not changing. How did this ever get this far? Your better than this. You deserve better than this. Get rid of her and get yourself focus on your happiness because this is not normal or healthy.