[Missash77]

About 2 and 1/2 months ago my ex came home from a 3 week military class and broke up with me and moved out. He said he lost attraction and we weren't getting along, and he didn't think he still wanted to marry me. He had commented on the attraction loss right before he left and it devistated me. We spent the holidays together even after the break up because he said he wanted to remain close and good friends. After new year we didn't talk for 2 weeks and he chased me down saying he missed me, the attraction was back and wanted to take it one day at a time. I was constantly unsettled by the fact that he wasn't my boyfriend and pressed for him to commit to me again and give up some of his girl friends who he said he was attracted to but they said they would never be intrested in him. This pushed him to saying we should just be friends and he just doesn't see us getting back together and the attraction was gone again, but we would still go on dates and he would sleep over every time I was off work. We were still acting as though the realationship hadn't ended but some times when we made love he would push me away the next day saying he doesn't want to get my hopes up. He would constintly tell me to move on and he wanted me to go on dates, but he's get jealous if I said I was talking to anyone. Eventually he stopped showing his jealousy and he said he had no right to be jealous and continued erging me to date. I never excepted any dates because I love him and only want to be with him. He left for military training 2 weeks ago that will last another 8 weeks. And we were together the night before he left and he called me the second and fourth day he was gone. The second day sounded like he missed talking to me and just wanted to talk and the fourth day was him call to say good luck on my date on Friday because he interpreted a message on Facebook as I had a date and I told him he was wrong. I didn't here from him again until I text him Monday night to tell him some important mail came to the house for him and he text me back thank you and keep the texting short. Im going crazy with worry that I've pushed him too far away now and he's not missing me at all. Im not calling or texting him and I'm trying to act as happy as I possibly can in the public eye including facebooking that I am. I have no idea where to go from here. I've read all kinds of self help books so that if he does come back I'll be better able to communicate with him and not argue. Please someone help me get the love of my life back. I don't want to slip out of his life for good in the next 6 weeks.

[Romefalls19]

You can't make someone want to come back, you need to move on as if he won't come back because chances are that he won't. I'll be honest, they almost never come back and if they do the relationship is such a strain that it seldom lasts because people get caught in that "we are together" bliss and forget the problems that broke them up before

[talaniman]

You may think he is the love of your life, but he doesn't want to be. Sorry, but that's something you must accept. He doesn't want to comeback.