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prsl · Mar 10, 2010, 11:56 AM

My ex had hurt me so much before. I've forgiven/forgotten, recently we got in touch online. I hadn't seen him in over 5 yrs. (fyi, I never had sex with him.) He has a girlfriend and I'm with my child's father. I have no intention on getting together with my ex but am curious to see him and catch up as friends. I plan on inviting his girlfriend along. The problem is that I've mentioned this person to my partner before but don't know if he remembers his face I am scared that some type of jealousy will come up and a problem will occur what should I do? Should I let him know who he is or invite him as a friend and not say anything or not invite, mind you I don't have any friends, I'm always working or doing something that I don't take time out to hang out unless it's with my partner and sometimes his friends.

amicon · Mar 10, 2010, 12:15 PM

Why invite him at all if it might cause problems?

This guy hurt you in the past,he doesn't sound like friendship material to me.

lollypops01 · Mar 10, 2010, 12:26 PM

If I was you I would sit down and talk to my partner and see what he/she says

I wish · Mar 10, 2010, 01:29 PM

Sounds like you want to open a can of worms.

Do you have a way to contain the worms?

AmericanGirl01 · Mar 10, 2010, 01:39 PM

You need to be honest with your partner. I definitely don't recommend inviting your ex and telling your boyfriend he's just a friend.. what happens if your boyfriend finds out the truth?

Why do you want this ex of yours at your child's birthday party? This day is supposed to be about your child and not the drama that will certainly arise if you follow through with this plan of yours.

chickie543 · Mar 10, 2010, 02:07 PM

This seems like it will be very awkward for your boyfriend and his girlfriend. Is a child's party really the best place to 'catch up'? I wouldn't invite him.

prsl · Mar 10, 2010, 08:17 PM

Thanks for your comments, he had asked for the invite, I was thinking it was OK as long as I invite his girlfriend. I don't feel anything for this guy. I did talk to him after we broke up as a friend and I was with someone else at that time I know it won't be awkard for us but I don't know how his girlfriend or my partner will feel.

I wish · Mar 10, 2010, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by prsl

Thanx for your comments, he had asked for the invite, I was thinking it was ok as long as I invite his gf. I don't feel anything for this guy. I did talk to him after we broke up as a friend and I was with someone else at that time I know it won't be awkard for us but I dont know how his gf or my partner will feel.

Again, as long as you have a way to contain the worms.

Why do this to yourself? Why make things more difficult for your respective significant others?

If you really only wanted to catch up with him, you easily do it without dragging your significant others in.

prsl · Mar 10, 2010, 08:42 PM

Thank you I WISH I just thought it be worse if we catched up basically on the low because I don't want to seem like I'm hiding something. Thanks.

talaniman · Mar 11, 2010, 07:33 PM

If I were your partner, I would not like you inviting an ex, girlfriend or not to my kids party, and I would certainly not be happy about you catching up on the low, behind my back with him. What the freak can you be thinking??

If you need your own friends, go get some that are acceptable to be family friends.

GEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ!!

vanheart · Mar 11, 2010, 11:10 PM

Not really sure why you wanted to invite him.

Curiousity killed the cat.

Sounds like you have a motive, but feel guilty.

After 5 years, you are still on this guy? What? Want to have that screw you never had?

This shouldn't even enter your head. Or ruin a party meant for your kid.

Isn't that what the party's about? Get real, yo.

Imabadman · Mar 12, 2010, 11:40 AM

This is wrong on so many levels that I don't know what to say other than... NO. HELL NO.