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red grasshopper12 · Apr 2, 2008, 09:44 AM

You like this girl, and then she likes you, but her ex boyfriend wants you back and then she goes with the ex behind your back without telling you, what are you suppose to do?

duck22 · Apr 2, 2008, 11:08 AM

Her going back to her ex tells you everything about how you and her are. What you should do is simple, move on.

bushg · Apr 2, 2008, 11:13 AM

duck22 is right she is playing games and will go back and forth. Do not give her another chance.

JBeaucaire · Apr 2, 2008, 12:53 PM

When you date someone with active feelings/involvement with an ex, you are fighting a losing battle. Unless there is something really remarkable about you, it is a futile.

You SHOULD move on, but you don't have to. You can stay in the battle for her, just be realistic. You can't motivate her to like you more than him, you can't guilt her when she keeps going back to him. You have to win her by being a better choice AND finding her willing to make that choice. You can't actually control either one of those things.

Good luck, choose wisely.

talaniman · Apr 3, 2008, 07:43 AM

You gracefully disappear from her life, and save your dignity, and self respect.

red grasshopper12 · Apr 3, 2008, 11:23 AM

If you decide to move on and date someone else aren't you no better than she is?:confused:

spitvenom · Apr 3, 2008, 11:33 AM

Originally Posted by red grasshopper12

if you decide to move on and date someone else aren't you no better than she is?:confused:

It has nothing to do with being better then her because you moved on which means you have nothing to do with her anymore. You are free to date anyone you want. I mean you could sit there waiting and waiting and waiting for her to make up her mind but that is not fair to you.

talaniman · Apr 3, 2008, 09:26 PM

Originally Posted by red grasshopper12

if you decide to move on and date someone else aren't you no better than she is?:confused:

So you think you should just sit there while she makes up her mind, and does as she pleases?? :eek:

simoneaugie · Apr 3, 2008, 10:08 PM

To be exactly the same as she is, you would have to go out with your ex, behind her back. Is that who you want to be? Tell her what you're going to do. I suggest moving on too. Then, off you go.

red grasshopper12 · Apr 5, 2008, 11:26 AM

Shouldn't you talk with the person first before deciding to move on?

red grasshopper12 · Apr 5, 2008, 11:29 AM

Shouldn't you talk with the person before deciding to move on?

simoneaugie · Apr 5, 2008, 10:07 PM

Tell her that you are going to move on, if you want to. But "should" is a word that reflects doing what society agrees with. Telling her nothing is fine. Don't should on yourself.

Sitting there waiting for her is a waste of time. Go out, have fun, meet other women.

talaniman · Apr 5, 2008, 10:18 PM

Originally Posted by red grasshopper12

shouldn't you talk with the person before deciding to move on?

Why?? Talk about what?? There is nothing to talk about.

Alty · Apr 5, 2008, 10:24 PM

Red Grasshopper, are you asking for yourself or someone else? Aren't you a female wanting to find the right guy and get married yourself or are you bi? I'm a bit confused here, please explain as your other posts are contradicting this one.

red grasshopper12 · Apr 7, 2008, 01:30 PM

It's for something else

Alty · Apr 7, 2008, 07:00 PM

If it's for someone else than maybe they should be the one asking the question. It seems to me that you have way to many friends with problems, and you are posting them all over this site. In order for us to give accurate responses we need to talk to the person this is happening to, not a third party. Do you understand?

33sars27 · Apr 7, 2008, 07:10 PM

It mite be hard, but she isn't treating you right, and if two people are together they should have a equal relationship, and hearing you say that does not sound like a equal relationship.. so I guess all you could do is move on. And don't take her back if she ever brakes up with him again.. x