Hey bud -
I have a strong feeling on what happened.
You need to learn what creates 'attraction'.
IF you act too anxious to make a relationship work, even if the other person initially seemed to be the one who wanted it, they will become turned off and start looking for the exits. Next time you decide you really want somebody, play your cards close to your chest. Don’t let on how excited you’ve become. Slowly over many months of time you can eventually show more commitment on your part, but do so incrementally, remaining alert to equal signs of commitment back. If at any point your devotion is more than an equal share, back off and give the other person a chance to catch up before proceeding further.
It is their perception, rightly or wrongly, that someone nice must be desperately needy. The neediness or dependent characteristics exhibited by a person are actually what is repulsive.
See - too often we want to rush into a relationship. Too often. It's not necessary.
I have a feeling you were too needy/clingy? Too available to her. Did you call her every day - text every day - e-mail everyday?
PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE!! Remember that.
Here's the deal - you probably were way too nice - woman don't ever feel attraction towards nice. You need to learn about 'nice guys'.
Woman ARE NOT like men - the 'feel' - men use logic.
Being all 'nice' all the time is not exciting to a woman. I am sure buy then stuff, always agreeable (get in an argument).
1. Don't be needy - get a life - a woman is part of your life, not your life.
2. Don't be agreeable with her - stand your ground - HAVE a spine - learn to always say no. DON'T let her walk all over you.
3. BE busy - don't call her every day - make her call you - make her MISS YOU - very important. Woma nis part of your life - NO PEDESTAL. Work, workout, school, hobbies, family FRIENDS etc. - these are all parts of your life. Too much contact kills a relationship.
4. DON'T BUT her affection - gifts are FEW are far between. Don't pay for everything.
5. Keep compliments to a few - LESS IS MORE with woamn.
6. Don't be ALL nice all the time - that's WUSS BOY behavior. Be a man - cancle plans - go out with the boys. TEASE HER A LOT! Bust her chops. Make fun of her.
7. Don't put up with any of her crap - like her cancelling at the last minute, walking all over you etc.
8. LEARN woman's TESTs - they test you over and over and you failed - they want a man who is CONFIDENT, has a backbone, can say no to them, put them in their place, lead!
They test with their questions - don't be all nice with stupid answers - Ask her question IF she ask you a questions.
PLEASE go to these sites are learn about relationships NOW!
www.askmen.com - READ ALL the dating articles.
www.relationships.blog-city.com - LEARN about NICE GUYS. Tests. How woman communicate. How relationships work. Learn about Wuss Boys, jerks/bad boys, bad girls.
www.lovetactics.com - read ALL the free articles.
You don't need to become a jerk - just MORE independent. Heartache IS avoidable if you understand about relationships.
I need to write a book.