[jimmy04]

Hi I was going out with my girlfreind for a year and a half. Everything was going fine just out of the blue she said she could"nt do it anymore. We were talking about marriage and kids buying a home she said it happerened to fast and to quick but she was the one who wanted me to move in. Also she said that in the start we were doing things n now we aren"t and she felt like a stay home wife I try to sort it out but couldn"t get through to her. I was getting text messages of her and emails saying how much she was in love with me before all this happenened weeks before. She said she doesn"t know were all this has come from and why she is doing it and her head is all over the place I've asked her if she what"s me in her life or for me to leave for good but she can"t tell me. She also emailed me telling me she was sorry for what she done and to forgive her for being rude and a bit!ch. So I went home and she was fine for two days so now I've gave her space and time and moved back to my parents I just don't know how sum one can be so happy in love and be all over you and the next they are like this. I also found out that there is being a guy at her work who liked her but also knew she was happy with me but that didn't stop him he kept going for it. He says he loves her and its only being three weeks it sounds like he is playing her and is it for one reason and my ex just can't see it. I like to know what his intenions are as I know offices relationships don't work is she just going to fall head first and what me to pick up the pieces I still love her I just think she is confussed

[Bluerose]

If I could tell you what she's thinking I would be a millionaire. But it's pretty obvious that she is interested in this other guy. And it sounds like you were more committed in the relationship than she was. You could bide your time and let this thing run it's course and then see how you feel about taking her back or you could get out there and let her see you getting on with your life. Nothing pisses an ex off more than to see their ex enjoying life without them. Even if you don't feel like it right now fake it till you make it. Good luck.

[I wish]

I don't think that she suddenly changed her mind.

There is a theory that woman will treat their boyfriends much better if they feel an attraction to another man. This sounds like you situation, she's probably been thinknig about this other guy at work, but she felt guilty and starting telling you how much she loves you to sooth her guilt for the past few weeks.

Eventually, the guilt caught up to her and she couldn't do it anymore.

I think you did the right thing by giving her space. She's obviously really confused about her feelings.

If she really loved you back, she will come and find you. Otherwise, there's nothing more you can do, except move on with your life.

Finally, I wanted to add that it doesn't matter what the other guy did to chase her, if she was committed to your relationship, nothing the guy could have done would have pryed her away. It sounds more like your relationship wasn't as stable as you thought and this guy caught her at a vulnerable moment.

[talaniman]

When a lady kicks me out of her house, I leave, and disappear from her life. Who cares what's going on in her head, and you really don't want to know.

[spitvenom]

I think she is interested in this guy at work. She wants to see what happens, but have you as a safety net when it doesn't work out. Don't be her safety net!