[DarrenJ]

My long distance girlfriend said that she doesn’t love me the same way as when we first met 3 months ago. My feelings for her are as strong as ever and I've also got a plane ticket to see her in October. Ive asked her to judge me in person when I come in October she said fine but it really feels like she doesn’t want to see me, I'm trying to keep the conversation flowing between us but its getting to the point where I don’t know what to say. I don’t want to spend my vacation there at the airport.

My girlfried also suffers from depression and before me she was in a realationship that lasted a year and even though she ended it and the guy was abusive she blames herself for it ending. This last month has been really hard for her and I feel like I could have been more supportive. On Sunday she got all jealous and angry that I added a girl on fb and then on Monday she said everything is always about me and that she doesn't feel like she loves me anymore. Like I said we arranged to meet in October and I have a ticket but now I really don't know what to do.

[vanheart]

Long distance is challenging enough.

Let alone with someone that's has those issues.

This sounds like harder work than its worth.

Plus here's the kicker, "she doesnt feel like she loves me anymore"

Don't force her, move on.

You can always use that ticket for credit. She already said "she said fine but it really feels like she doesn’t want to see me"

That's not much incentive to travel to her.

I was in a LD relationship, believe me, its hell.

[Kitkat22]

Save your money. Sorry but it doesn't sound like it's such a good idea to put anything else into
A relationship that seems to be over.

[positiveparent]

October is a long way off, and you could have both moved on by then. I would see if you can get a refund on your ticket, and go somewhere else if you can't get the cash back for it that is.

If you've only been together for 3 months then I would say cut your loses and move on, as previous poster has said long distance relationships are hard at best of times.

It might be an idea for you to go No Contact to allow yourself time to get over this and heal..

You'll find all you need to know about no contact on this forum in the stickies. Good Luck and I hope you can get your money back on the ticket...

[DarrenJ]

I had enough she wouldn't listen to what I had to say and she blamed me for everything so I don't know what was going on with her she have could be seeing another guy for all I know.
Im really upset that it had to end like this especially after everything I have done for her and now I'm just left with this ticket that I can't refund so I'm going to have to throw it up on eBay or something.

[talaniman]

Do what you have to do about the ticket, but LDR are awful, and its worse when she has issues.

3 months is NOT a lot of time to build anything with a person, and its showing now. October is a long way off, who knows what will happen between now and then, but for sure, its to soon for promises and commitments to someone you aren't even around to properly reassure.

At this point I wouldn't want to be spending all that loot for someone who doesn't want to see me and be stuck at an airport either.

You can make a better plan than that can't you?

[DarrenJ]

Yeah I just thought it and she was blaming me for everything anyway.

[Kitkat22]

Yeah I just thought it and she was blaming me for everything anyways.

All the more reason to get out.

[DarrenJ]

She's still talking to me but I can't get a straight answer out of her.

[talaniman]

Stop talking to her.

[Kitkat22]

Don't do anything. Just don't talk to her.

[Homegirl 50]

She has told you how she feels.
Forget about the trip and forget about her.
Tell her you see no point or future in this relationship and then walk away.
NC

[Kitkat22]

She has told you how she feels.
Forget about the trip and forget about her.
Tell her you see no point or future in this relationship and then walk away.
NC

Get over her. Forget and move on. She isn't the one for you!