[deelovesryan]

Okay I am dating this guy for two years and he has a child from a girl he was with for 6 years. I'm not quite sure how there relationship was when they first started dating(which was when she was 16 and he was 18) but I do know that the last at least 2 or 3 years it was nothing but arguing. He would even just leave and go to Daytona without telling her where he was going and would ignore he while he was gone. He was actually doing this when he got an email from her stating she was pregnant.. the only reason he went back to her was for the baby. Well about 2 months after the birth she kicked him out. Now I met him through his brother who was my best friend for 8 years, but I never met him because he didn't come around we lived in a city like 30 minutes away. So I have met the baby before they even broke up through his brother baby sitting. Well the whole time we have been dating she never has wanted to meet me(which to me is a pretty sh*tty mother for not wanting to know who's around her son) She talks crap about me to her friends which some are mutual friends of his/ours. She even has wrote me saying she was the best thing that ever happened to him and he was cheating on me(which he wasn't) Well the only thing I ask of my boyfriend is to tell me when he is talking to her because I will admit I am a little insecure of her being with him for so long and having a kid I mean that's a bond I do not have with him. Now he tells me he loves me and we talk about marriage and having a baby down the road but I just cannot stand her. I have tried to be the bigger person and be nice but she is very immature. I just need some advice on how to deal with her since if I plan on marrying him she is not going anywhere.

Oh some other things she has done: when he did not have a DL(drivers Licesnse) I was driving to go pick up the son and she really asked him to drop me off around the corner before we got there(in MY car!) oh which I DID NOT do. Another, we were in line at taco bell and she pulled up right behind us.. then texts him a <3 just knowing I was right there. I honestly think when she left him she thought he would be miserable and try to get her back but instead he found somebody he is actually happy with and that makes her mad.. what do I do about her??

[vanheart]

If he really truly committed to you, then he's got to man up & remove all of this BS & drama.

Its not for you to fix.

God forbid that you will be the next crazy ex with his kid.

You must have known the baggage before you got involved.

Sounds like he wasn't ready or serious then, after or now.

[talaniman]

You ignore her, and trust the guy your with. She may never stop harassing him, and they have a child together, its really his problem not yours.

[deelovesryan]

Thank you I try the best I can to ignore her it is very hard at times but I do trust my man fully thanks!

[mommyof2jj]

I'm kind of in the same as you my boyfriend baby mama lives in Dallas and she's actually down here now. Well this is her first time coming down here and her last. She told my boyfriend when she get here I don't need to be around... but I showed her I went to his mother house last night[where she's staying] and she starting crying because I was there... but stick with your man he seems like a good guy and if you let go she'll think she won.