[Bella1983]

How do I stop asking stupid questions? I'm thinking all crazy and doing stupid things like not checking with my fiancée about wedding stuff. Am I being too self absorbed? How do I know when what I'm doing or right?

[redhed35]

Your getting married, congrats!

It can be quite a stressful time, put aside time in the evening where you can both discuss what you want and sticking to the budget, its easy to go over if your not watching it or if your making decisions on your own.

Draw up a list of what needs to be done,who you need to see and talk to, also, who is doing what.

Its easy to get carried away with all the excitement, but doing it together takes the stress away and adds the fun into getting plans in place.

Communication is vital to avoid disagreements, try and find the compromise and you may have to let go of something to stick to the all important budget.

What kind of stupid questions ( that really is a terrible word), no such thing as a stupid question.

[Bella1983]

Hi well I use the word stupid as it was said to me by my fiancée during our arguments. I asked him if he wanted to know who I chose for hair & make up and he replied with: "that's a stupid question to ask"

[Wondergirl]

When it comes to the bride stuff, your fiancé doesn't give a hoot (as you found out). He just wants your hair to be clean and combed, and you with clothes on, showing up at the right time.

Ask him which things he wants to definitely be part of -- decisions about liquor, what meat to serve at the reception, if the men will wear tuxes and good rental places (so he doesn't have to think too hard). He wants to think about the fun, guy stuff and none of the girly stuff.

[martinizing2]

Bachelor Party stuff will not be stupid to him I bet.

Hair and dresses are not even required according to most men, in fact no dresses will probably be a hit in the bachelors book.

Most men really do not care about the trappings, it's what's inside that counts.

[Bella1983]

Well he actually wants to be involved in everything. From what colour the bridesmaid dresses are to what type of flower. He wants to be involved so I ask his opinion and he answers with:"what ever don't care" yet he gives me this speech about choosing together. He believes it's his wedding too and wants a say as well. I'm not choosing the honeymoon or transport he is, he said "leave it to me" so not to start an arguments I did.

[talaniman]

He asked for it, and you are giving it to him. He should be more careful what he asked for. He will learn, but you have to understand he is a guy for crissake, what the freak would he know about a wedding?? He hasn't a clue does he? Go ahead its okay to admit it?

[CarrotTalker]

You should tell him straight out, "You asked me to be involved and make decisions about the wedding together, don't tell me a question is stupid when you asked to be kept in the loop".