[MarieLee89]

How do you know if someone is a sex addict?:confused:

[mudweiser]

Behaviors associated with sexual addiction include:

•Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
•Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
•Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
•Consistent use of pornography
•Unsafe sex
•[Excessive] Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
•Prostitution or use of prostitutes
•Exhibitionism
•Obsessive dating through personal ads
•Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking
•Sexual harassment
•Molestation/rape

NOTE: You may have a sex addiction if you are engaging in types of sexual behavior that you would not have considered acceptable before. Examples are masochistic or sadistic sex. Sometimes more extreme forms of sexual behavior are engaged in, for example pedophilia, bestiality, rape.


Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. A sex addict also feels a lack of control over the behavior, despite negative consequences (financial, health, social, and emotional).

Taken from: Sexual Addiction Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis and Treatment on MedicineNet.com

Are you worried that you are a sex addict? Someone close to you?

Sarah

[MarieLee89]

Behaviors associated with sexual addiction include:

•Compulsive masturbation (self-stimulation)
•Multiple affairs (extra-marital affairs)
•Multiple or anonymous sexual partners and/or one-night stands
•Consistent use of pornography
•Unsafe sex
•[Excessive] Phone or computer sex (cybersex)
•Prostitution or use of prostitutes
•Exhibitionism
•Obsessive dating through personal ads
•Voyeurism (watching others) and/or stalking
•Sexual harassment
•Molestation/rape

NOTE: You may have a sex addiction if you are engaging in types of sexual behavior that you would not have considered acceptable before. Examples are masochistic or sadistic sex. Sometimes more extreme forms of sexual behavior are engaged in, for example pedophilia, bestiality, rape.


Generally, a person with a sex addiction gains little satisfaction from the sexual activity and forms no emotional bond with his or her sex partners. In addition, the problem of sex addiction often leads to feelings of guilt and shame. A sex addict also feels a lack of control over the behavior, despite negative consequences (financial, health, social, and emotional).

Taken from: Sexual Addiction Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis and Treatment on MedicineNet.com

Are you worried that you are a sex addict? Someone close to you?

Sarah

Kind of worryed I am. I always want sex and am never satisfied, it really bad.

[JoeCanada76]

Does it really matter if you are or are not?

Unless you think it is a problem in your own opinion then by all means get all the professional help you can.

As long as your not hurting anybody.
You say you are worried, why are you so worried?

[mudweiser]

How old are you?

Sarah

[MarieLee89]

Well it is effecting my marriage. Kind of a problem when I have two kids.
Getting help is kind of hard considering certain circumstances

[JoeCanada76]

Getting help is kind of hard in certain circumstances what exactly does that mean?

You having an affair?

[MarieLee89]

Lol um no but I can't say the circumstances, just get me in trouble with higher people

[JoeCanada76]

Higher people.

Well guess what you need counseling. No matter the circumstance.

?? If you truly want the help then you will seek it??

[mudweiser]

well it is effecting my marriage. Kind of a problem when I have two kids.
Getting help is kind of hard considering certain circumstances

Are you unable to see a professional because of financial reasons?

I suggest looking up your community for help! Where do you live? USA/Canada? There are some Sexaholic meetings, going there once will help you determine whether you are a sexaholic or not. Speaking to other people that have that problem would also help.

How is it affecting your marriage? Can you be more specific.

lol um no but I can't say the circumstances, just get me in trouble with higher people

You went on this forum for help, we cannot help you if you hold information. Whom are these higher people? As far as I'm concerned YOU are already in trouble with yourself...


Sarah

[smoothy]

There is a big difference between thinking about it several times a day (or even a lot more)... and actually having to do it several times a day.

Most people fantasize a lot (as in many times a day). But most people don't actually have to do it many times a day. The former is normal... the latter is a compulsion.

[Alty]

lol um no but i can't say the circumstances, just get me in trouble with higher ppl

Which higher people are you talking about?

This is an anonymous site. No one here knows who you are unless you decide to disclose that information.

We can't give advice if we don't know the circumstances.

I smell a troll.

[MarieLee89]

Lol your nose is broken cause I am not a troll, and also you try being in military and not being paranoid after bmt. The problem in my marriage is that I get physically frustrated, and it starts arguments. My body starts to hurt if I don't get it and I thought this was a sight where you could ask bloody questions and not have people talk crap, but I guess not. A few things have been helpful like the very first answer and few others after like smoothy's. So thanks to those have answered with helpful information and those who have nothing but doubt about what I say and who I am, go away. I have nothing to prove to anyone. I was just looking for information

[MarieLee89]

Are you unable to see a professional because of financial reasons?

I suggest looking up your community for help! Where do you live? USA/Canada? There are some Sexaholic meetings, going there once will help you determine whether you are a sexaholic or not. Speaking to other people that have that problem would also help.

How is it affecting your marriage? Can you be more specific.



You went on this forum for help, we cannot help you if you hold information. Whom are these higher people? As far as I'm concerned YOU are already in trouble with yourself...


Sarah

And thank you mudweiser, you really have given me a lot of information

[bigblack]

Well, you can 'google' sex addiction and get a questionnaire you can fill out if you want. You can analyze what that means according to other people... and fail... and fail... but the point is... you have to think about this question yourself. Do you think you're a sex addict? What does that change in your everyday 'normal' life? Lots of people may consider themselves (at times) an addict of something in one form or another. Your best bet is to talk to someone, get it out of your system to express yourself, and consequently, understand your own feelings. Who cares if someone thinks you are insincere or not... totally not the point... try to work it out with yourself. Write it down... whatever it takes. I get the impression that's what you really need here. You are SO capable of this!

[Cat1864]

Questions always arise when someone doesn't give a complete story like holding back that they are pregnant or just had a baby. Are having marital problems with not feeling like they are being 'heard':

In a relationship, there are two. when you raise a child with a partner, there are two, but you should be working as one.
is it me cause i am pregnant? i think the biggest argument annd problem is that he thinks there is nothing wrong. he says we are ok and the only problem is me. how does that make sense? all i want to know is how do i get him to talk to me and admit there is a problem that needs to be focused on and settled once and for all?

Hormones and perceptions can affect how a woman thinks and feels at any given time. Yes, even the libido. As has been stated, we can't help unless we are given an accurate idea of what is going on.

Your feeling like a 'sex addict' could be your body and mind trying to deal with other stresses.

You could have given the same information that you did in your first post (though that post raises a few questions in itself) on this site and taken care of the 'higher ups' question:

... he is airforce and i am joining next fall...

This site is wonderful for getting advice and you have given some yourself. However, the people who answer need more than one line and bits and pieces pulled out of a reluctant questioner.