[Sweet_Guy23]

Through my experience with falling in love. The relationships that I have experienced never lasted long at all because the girl that I fell in for started feeling like she really loved me then through time they changed and eventually fall off.

I've only fell in love with only 3 people. I am 23yrs old. You know? I mean I am a down-to-earth guy who likes to have fun, see places, likes the finer things in life. I am intelligent, talented, respectful, and a gentleman. Not a bad looking guy either. I just don't understand why I haven't had a relationship that has lasted longer than several months!

Maybe I am just falling for the wrong type of females or what? The thing in common about the 3 females that I did fall in love with were all between the age of 18-20.

So how do I know when I am really in Love with someone and how do I know when someone is in Love with me for real? Not infactuation!! HELP ME!!

[duck22]

To love and be in love are different. You know your in love when there is no doubt in your mind that you want to spend the rest of your life with her and it makes you ecstatic.

[JBeaucaire]

Nothing wrong with infatuation. It's a perfectly legitimate way to start an interest in someone.

Stop being so analytical. You're not doing anything WRONG by having a relationship end. That just means you're doing it RIGHT. You're supposed to date people you like until you discover it can't/won't last forever... and move on... try again.

It's a simple and straightforward process, as long as you don't add a bunch of self-doubt. You're doing fine.

You could work on enjoying the process more and trying not to feel fatalistic when the next one ends. It's supposed to end. The only one that won't end is the last one... the girl you can't stop finding ways to be good to, and who (for some strange reason) keeps finding ways to make your life better.

That takes a long time to find. In the meantime, enjoy the hunt.

[Jiser]

Love your reply JBeaucaire!!

[Learnfrommyways]

I think when you really know that some one likes you or falls in love with you,you see them near you most of the time,or always taking a glance at you.Either way maybe also they would want to talk to you.But hey what you said about you should have girls waiting in line,and I would be in that line but I'm taken big time.Also hey you'll know and just keep looking,If your really desparate go to e-harmeny.com God knows I think its stupid but if your desperate.

[talaniman]

So how do I know when I am really in Love with someone and how do I know when someone is in Love with me for real? Not infactuation!!

Before I start, half the marriages today, and most relationships fail. When I say that, it just means most of us go through many relationships before we find ourselves in a long term one, that seems to work.

Stop looking, and just enjoy the process, and accept when people change their minds, and move on. Yeah it hurts like the d-i-c-kens, when it doesn't work, but that's just life, and its up to you to deal with it.

That will be the key to your whole life, How you deal with life!!!

[Sweet_Guy23]

Im not desperate, and I don't have girls waiting in line. Its just after thinking about everything. Just have to ask myself am I doing something wrong because my last relationship that I wrote a post on was a surprise to me so it made me question myself. You know?

[talaniman]

While you regroup, and rebuild, you will feel better, and be more confident as you succeed, and have things you enjoy, and activities that make you happy. That's the challenge, being happy with yourself, and the life you lead.