Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >

Should I text my ex boyfriend a birthday wish?

Asked Jul 7, 2012, 04:37 PM — 10 Answers
Should I text my ex boyfriend a birthday wish? When we first got to know each other he was my everlasting crush till something happened and we had this huge fight. There wasn’t anything between us yet. But I liked him anyway even though we stopped talking for 4 months. Then later on my birthday he sent me a long cute birthday wish out of nowhere. Then we started talking and we fell in love with each other.

I care for him a lot and love him so much but later through the relationship we had our ups and downs. then we had a very long break afterwards for the sake of family issues and this trust problem (like he told me a secret about my friend and I told her. even though I wasn’t meant to but it made him go cut). Then he came back and asked me out again. I didn’t give him a reply but afterwards I asked him to delete my number. He got upset for that but appreciated what I was going through. Now the last time we’ve spoken was a month ago, and his birthdays up in a month.

Should I send him a birthday wish? If yes any recommendations?

Thank U xx

Search this Thread
Share |
10 Answers
talaniman's Avatar
talaniman Posts: 44,362, Reputation: 50371
Senior Family & People Expert
  
#2

Jul 7, 2012, 05:13 PM


What do you hope to come of this?
Helpful
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
Fr_Chuck Posts: 72,624, Reputation: 37031
Expert
  
#3

Jul 7, 2012, 06:33 PM


NO, you need to stop all contact and start moving on with your life,
Helpful
Sarah Tanoski's Avatar
Sarah Tanoski Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
New Member
  
#4

Jul 8, 2012, 04:09 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
What do you hope to come of this?
I honestly want to be someone who was so close to him... I just want him to see me as a changed person and let him feel that I'll always be thier for him... because he is always running through my mind, and at least i want him to have a good impression of me becaus at the end of the day Im in year 12 and I see him at one of my classes every Thursdays this year ends in a couple of months an I do not want to loose contact.. I want him to smile at me as the times where we had a crush on eachother after all it all started from his Birthday wishes to me
Helpful
talaniman's Avatar
talaniman Posts: 44,362, Reputation: 50371
Senior Family & People Expert
  
#5

Jul 8, 2012, 06:35 AM


Quote:
Then he came back and asked me out again. I didn’t give him a reply but afterwards I asked him to delete my number. He got upset for that but appreciated what I was going through.
You want him to chase you, and since he isn't, you want him more. You see him every day and you desire his attention. So this whole birthday thing is an opportunity to light the fire again right?

But why did you cut the contact in the first place?
Helpful
Sarah Tanoski's Avatar
Sarah Tanoski Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
New Member
  
#6

Jul 8, 2012, 07:04 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
You want him to chase you, and since he isn't, you want him more. You see him every day and you desire his attention. So this whole birthday thing is an opportunity to light the fire again right?

But why did you cut the contact in the first place?
No I honestly dont look at it that way... our fire became to fade away, as in U noe we started talking less, and everytime we did wed fight over anything... I said Id give it a break and when we did get back it just wasnt the same he started acting like he really wanted me and at the same time get me jelouse and our converstiins would just die out so easily... maybe because we loved eachother too much and the smallest things will irritate us or became too sensible..I asked him to delete my number because at one point I had enough couldnt handle it too much pressure from the outer world then bam he come out and makes me feel bad... All I want is what I asked from the previose coment through a Birthday Wish
Helpful
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
Fr_Chuck Posts: 72,624, Reputation: 37031
Expert
  
#7

Jul 8, 2012, 07:07 AM
So, it is clear, no more messaging, you need to even consider why you wanted to do this anyway, You need to stop and break contacting him to allow yourself time to heal and move on
Helpful  (1)
J_9's Avatar
J_9 Posts: 37,068, Reputation: 25675
Expert
  
#8

Jul 8, 2012, 07:09 AM
He's your "ex" for a reason. Don't try to dredge up old feelings, just let it go.
Helpful  (1)
Sarah Tanoski's Avatar
Sarah Tanoski Posts: 4, Reputation: 1
New Member
  
#9

Jul 8, 2012, 07:19 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
So, it is clear, no more messaging, you need to even consider why you wanted to do this anyway, You need to stop and break contacting him to allow yourself time to heal and move on
Thank U ... I would take Ur advice it means alot though. not even a birthday message dor the sake ofhimbeing my Classmate ?

Quote:
Originally Posted by J_9 View Post
He's your "ex" for a reason. Don't try to dredge up old feelings, just let it go.
His also my classmate but ? I shouldnt yeah U do have a point though
Helpful
Homegirl 50's Avatar
Homegirl 50 Posts: 8,911, Reputation: 10923
Dating & Teen Expert
  
#10

Jul 8, 2012, 08:06 AM
Let this go. No text, no nothing. You have not communicated in a month. No point in starting this up again
Helpful  (1)
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.

Remove Text Formatting
 

Undo
Redo
  
Decrease Size
Increase Size
Bold
Italic
Underline
Align Left
Align Center
Align Right
Ordered List
Unordered List
Decrease Indent
Increase Indent
Insert Email Link
Wrap [QUOTE] tags around selected text
Wrap [CODE] tags around selected text
Wrap [HTML] tags around selected text
Wrap [PHP] tags around selected text
Wrap [YOUTUBE] tags around selected text
Notification Type:



Check out some similar questions!

Should I text my ex boyfriend saying happy birthday? [ 7 Answers ]

We break up 3 months ago ... On christmas I sent him a message : merry christmas:) he texted me back : merry christmas:D ... Should I text him for his birthday?

What should I get my boyfriend for his birthday? [ 2 Answers ]

My Boyfriends birthday is in 2 days, and I have NO CLUE what to get him. He's 16, likes baseball but has every redsox thing and he says he doesn't want anything but I'm going to get him something anyways I'm going shopping today so please help me!

What should I get my boyfriend for his birthday? [ 4 Answers ]

He and I have been going out for 6 months this wednesday and he is the most amazing guy ever. He is a year younger than me but hey, age is only a number. But his birthday is on the 29th of this month and I have NO CLUE what to get him and he won't tell me anything except that he wants to see me. I...

Birthday Cell Phone ! & text messaging [ 1 Answers ]

Hello, My parents said I can get a cell phone for my birthday, and all my friends have text messaging too. I also want texting but I'm not sure how much it costs. I have t-mobile and its Family Plan 1000 minutes. I was wondering how much it would cost for just ME <---- having texting ( cause my...

I have one chance, one text message, on his birthday to win him back. What do I say [ 25 Answers ]

My ex boyfriend and I have been through a lot. We broke up 8 months ago, didn't talk for a while, and then started talking again. Then on new years this year I went to Montreal with my friends, and one of my friends stayed home. She ended up hooking up with him, and everyone got mad at them. I was...

View more Relationships questions Search