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Old Nov 12, 2007, 02:37 PM
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Should I stay or Go?

What 2 do when your partner of 1year, says he does not love you yet, but he loved his ex girl after 5months (who treated him bad)? He treats me really gud and says he care's 4 me, but i dnt no wat 2 do, sayin 'I luv u' 2 some1 and you know they dont feel it bak, isnt a nice feeling. ! is it normal 2 not be in love after a year?...? xxx

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Old Nov 12, 2007, 02:47 PM   #2  
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Would probably walk
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Old Nov 12, 2007, 02:50 PM   #3  
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Yea, thanks 4 the answer, im thinkin of taking a break, im a nice girl and dnt want 2 be hurt again!
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It all depends on how you feel about it really. You need to ask yourself "am I truely happy with him" - it sounds to me like your not too happy and because he does not love you and did his ex, your really bothered By it

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If you aren't happy, then tell him. See if he wants to work on the relationship, maybe by going to counseling, or just by having honest conversation with you about it all. If he isn't willing to work on things, then if you are really unhappy, leave. Never stay in a relationship that makes you feel bad. Maybe he is afraid of getting hurt (since his ex treated him bad) and that is why he isn't ready for the commitment that saying "I love you" implies. Either way, if things don't change, I would leave him. Relationships only work if both people want the same thing. Good luck!
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ur rite DJ-H im not 2 happy with the fact that he said he had more feelings 4 her, than he has 4 me..i wudnt mind but we've been 2getha muchh longa then thay were! And i do so much 4 him, wen all she dun 4 him was cheat! THANKS 4 all the answers bak...much appreciated X
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If your not happy you have your answer. Just because you have been with him longer than he was with his ex does not mean a thing. To be honest I would say he is taking advantage of you because he knows what you do for in.
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Sounds like you're too giving for him. He fell in love with his ex probably because she was a b!tch. He's that type of guy, the one that likes abuse. When he has a stable and good relationship he doesn't dig it. I must ask this again. Why are all the good girls with jerks? First you tell him that it bothers you, then you say you want a break. You have to see if he really cares enough to come back. If he doesn't don't waste your precious love when it is unrequited. Walk away dear.

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The reality is there is no time limit on when to say I love you, some ppl can say I love you in 2 days some take longer, especially if they had a bad experience. There is a possibility he may feel it but is scared to say it.. but that's beside the point, It's not if he say it or not it's how your relationship is?? It's only a word, and it doesn't warrant any gurantee that someone will be with you... But just go with your feelings if you want to stay or not , his past relationship has nothing to do with you, don't compare yourself with the ex and especially don't tell him that... Just go with what you truly feel... What drastic changes will it have when he does say it??? It's what he shows you!

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Yep i think enigmagnectic got it spot on, he does need a girl that will treat him like that. Iv stopped doing most of the things i do 4 him. I cut down how many times i call him..and guess wat, he's the 1 that wont stop calling and texting me now, wen i dnt show him as much attention. Ive been hurt very bad by 2 guys b4, they did awful things, I think i maybe 2 nice , im gonna get harder! If that dont work, Im walking!
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