Should I Stay with a Cheater

I wish · Dec 14, 2009, 06:25 AM

No trust = no relationship

If he can't earn back your trust; if you're not unsatisfied with his effort and progress, then this relationship will end whether you want it or not.

redhed35 · Dec 14, 2009, 06:32 AM

Crying because he got caught!

He was not thinking about you or the kids when he was talking to the other women.

Get a health check for sti and std's.

Take some time to let the dust settle and decide what YOU want to do.

If YOU decide that you want to try again, there is always counseling.

He has a lot of work to do,for you and the kids, he has betrayed his marriage,broken your heart and your trust....try and get your head together for you and the kids for christmas,and as for him, for now,let him cry,let him cry a river.

PainandSuffer · Dec 14, 2009, 06:32 AM

In my previous relationship I was cheated on and I never gave him a chance. I don't what to give him a chance but I have never seen him like this I can tell he regrets it but I'm not sure if its because he got caught or he really feels that way. He say he will change all his ways and has reallized that I will not put up with it.

redhed35 · Dec 14, 2009, 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by PainandSuffer

In my previous relationship I was cheated on and I never gave him a chance. I don't what to give him a chance but I have never seen him like this I can tell he regrets it but I'm not sure if its because he got caught or he really feels that way. He say he will change all his ways and has reallized that I will not put up with it.

Easy to say,harder to do.

He has realised you will not put up with him cheating, you would think that would have been part of the deal when you got together.

Take some time to think here.

CanIBuyAClue · Dec 14, 2009, 08:22 AM

If my significant other cheated, I would be out the door so fast their head would spin. In the back of your mind, you're always going to be wondering if they're going to do it again. That type of paranoia would drive me mad. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He's just upset because you caught him.

sabrewolfe · Dec 14, 2009, 08:23 AM

Never stay with a cheater.

talaniman · Dec 14, 2009, 10:41 AM

If he had never got caught, then you would never know, and he would still be doing it.

Leave him completely alone, to stew in his own juices, and pay the consequences of his actions.

Listen to your kids as they will judge you by your actions, and its so important to show them that bad behavior will not be tolerated.

Come on, you can do better than this.

Enigma1999 · Dec 14, 2009, 10:56 AM

Hello Pain&suffer,

I have to agree with everyone else.

You know, it's not like he went out got drunk, and had a one night stand. Then begs and plea for you back saying how sorry he is and wasn't in the right frame of mind. (Not saying that that excuses cheating, cheating is cheating!) He has been doing this for 3 months, AND had another phone inwhich he knew that what he was doing is wrong!

His actions were/are wrong! He had no regaurd for you or the children... Only himself!

Only you can answer that...I think everyone agrees that you should leave him.

Good luck.

binx44 · Dec 14, 2009, 10:57 AM

I say never stay with a cheater.. My ex (as of last week) and I broke up and got together again so many times. And I just found out he's been cheating on me all along with friends of mine.. Cheaters do nothing but hurt you.. If I had known all along that that's what he was doing while I was at work I'd like to think I would of left. Cheating sickens me

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