so i have been in this relationship 4 about 3 years now and he has been away 4 about 7 months now and he says that if i dont be faithful then its over but he wouldnt be faithful so i'm stuck 2 c if its worth it or do i remain faithful? should he or i be more understanding 2 ones needs?

JBeaucaire

No, you should be unfaithful and demand that he not see anyone while away. You're allowed to do it, but he's not. He should understand reasoning like that.

If he threatens "it's over, then"...remind him that it's not. He has to be faithful to you regardless of what you do while he's away since that's the way you want it.

I'm serious, you should tell him that.

But meanwhile, I doubt there is any confusion here at all. Sounds like you know he's being an idiot and the only confusion is if he thinks you're such a complete fool that you would actually agree to something like this. You're not, are you?

You agreeing this makes sense in ANY WAY...yeah, that would be confusing.

talaniman

Why are you listening to his crap, and even worse, believing it? Break this thing off and get a eal life.