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Should I send her an email?

Asked Feb 23, 2010, 09:52 AM — 23 Answers
I was dating my ex for about 1 1/2 year. Our break up wasn't pleasant and not mutual at all. We have not talked to each other since then. I've been on NC close to 3 months and I suspected she may be seeing someone new. Recently, I found out that she will be relocating to Australia. Should I send her an email just to wish her?

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Feb 23, 2010, 09:57 AM


What's the point?
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:07 AM
No. Don't do it.
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:08 AM
Although we are no longer in talking terms, I thought maybe I could drop her an email just to wish her all the best? I've only been in two relationships and she was the first one that I could feel so connected and I still love her very much......
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:09 AM
Don't e-mail her. Your relationship ended and she's moving on to a new life. Let her go!
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:13 AM
Yup you should definitely email her and reopen wounds that haven't healed yet.

What is the best possible outcome of this?

She will email you back and say 'Thanks.' I can totally see why you would want to risk your own mental state and feelings for the sake of a 'Thanks.'

What's the worst possible outcome?

She sends you back a rant about how she doesn't ever want to hear from you again or a touching email about how great her life is now and how excited she is to be going on a new adventure in her life or the best of all you get no answer at all and kick yourself for being so stupid as to put your heart on the line for someone that is out of your life and soon to be out of the country.

In case it wasn't clear I do not think this is a good idea.
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:17 AM
Bad idea.Why would you?

Leave the ex in the past and continue getting on with your life.
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Feb 23, 2010, 10:23 AM


No way do you contact her.
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Feb 23, 2010, 03:23 PM
I know that I will be opening up a can of worms if I were to send her the email. I love her dearly. I couldn't sleep these couple of days after hearing the news and I woke up in the middle of the night with tears in my eyes. She's got a promotion and that's why she's relocating to Australia. I thought maybe by sending her best wishes would be nice since we were once a couple.

I'm glad for her achievement but on the other hand I feel belittled (just a bit), as I'm still a junior and she's already a manager. Is this normal? I have not fully recovered from the break up, as she's someone I thought I would spend my life with. Part of me still want her badly and sadly I know she no longer wants me. It hurts.
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Feb 23, 2010, 03:38 PM
I wouldn't email her yet, I would wait until she is engaged, then show up at the alter and plea your love for her at that time.
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