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For those of you who don't know my story, my girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me about 4 months ago. The reason for our break-up was because I wasn't treating her as well as I should have, which made her realize that she was young and didn't deserve to be tied down to a relationship that required so much work. We were 16 when we met. Her decision was for her own good, and I know that.
I've tried to contact her many times intially, but later gave up and followed the no contact rule. I even found myself in a rebound relationship which quickly died out. I still miss my ex though, and her birthday is in 4 days. I want to call her...
Did she answer your phone calls when you called her initially?
Has she tried to contact since you have been following the no contact rule?
I don't think it would be bad to say happy birthday depending on your intentions. You need to keep it very short don't mention anything about feelings or relationships.
Keep it to Happy Birthday maybe call on her birthday in the afternoon. You can ask how things are going but nothing else. Do not ruin her birthday and make her think of anything else except getting a year older. Don't even say you will call her again or she can call you keep it short, just to show you care. Let her call you next. Do not call her again next.
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Maintain the no contact rule. By calling or e-mailing or sending a card you are breaking that rule and back to square one.
no contact means no contact, none, nada, nothing.
I agree, No contact means no contact..
I am sure your intentions are genuine and you just feel an obligation to wish her a happy birthday, and you probably don't have any ulterior motives.
No contact however means just this, nothing whatsoever.. Not so that you can play along with the idea of her coming back but simply for your self healing and to prevent you from losing the progress you have made.
Whats so special about her birthday, that it should come before you and what you need to do?
No contact, at all no cards, letters, e-mails, or smoke signals.
Nothing is special about it, nor is it more important than me.
I'm just hitting another rough patch, seeing as it's her birthday on Monday, and then what would have been our anniversary the first week of December. The winter months suck.
Did she answer your phone calls when you called her initially?
Has she tried to contact since you have been following the no contact rule?
I don't think it would be bad to say happy birthday depending on your intentions. You need to keep it very short don't mention anything about feelings or relationships.
Keep it to Happy Birthday maybe call on her birthday in the afternoon. You can ask how things are going but nothing else. Do not ruin her birthday and make her think of anything else except getting a year older. Don't even say you will call her again or she can call you keep it short, just to show you care. Let her call you next. Do not call her again next.
No, she NEVER responds to any of my e-mails, texts, or calls. I stopped trying 2 months ago. At first, I wrote her 3 long-winded e-mails begging for forgiveness, second chances, etc. She did write me back once, however, and perhaps she would have written me back again, had she not found out about the rebound girl I had. But she's probably even more angry at me now and this girl can hold a grudge forever.
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