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Hello everyone. My friend has a problem and I cant think of anything to tell her to do. The problem is she met a guy on the internet two years ago and really hurt her emotionally BAD! and she met him in person a couple of times and she said he acted less interested in person than on the phone. And some time later he started to act like a jerk and I told him off. It probally doesint make sense but now she is just obsessing and she really wants to call him and I dont know what to tell her. If this makes sense to anybody could you please tell me what to tell her. Thank you in advance.
what tal is saying there is nothing you can do about it. Your friend has to figure this one out on her own, the school of hard knocks is a fast teacher. Lets just say this if you give her advice and it ends up hurting her what will happen to your friendship? Do you want to have that happen or just let nature take its course and be there for your friend to help her pick up the pieces. I would say the later as not only can she learn from her mistakes, which is what life is based around, she will see that your there for her through the good times and the bad.
What Tal is saying, is that your friend needs to learn for herself. You shouldn't be the one telling this guy off. It should be her. As much as you care for your best friend, you are not her so therefore you can't control what she does.
Let her obsess and then find out for herself that he is a jerk.
hi my friend was like that too, try and take her mind off him go with friends watch movies etc... if that doesn't help then just be there if things don't work out and still be there if they do. My friend is now going out with someone else she is happier now than ever before.
I'm sorry the truth is a harsh taskmaster. If you get HER here onto the forum, we can talk to HER.
Right now, we're talking to you, and no, there's nothing you can do to make someone else "get" anything.
Laurence J. Peter once said, "A man convinced against his will is not convinced." ...meaning unless someone ASKS you for your help, your input/ideas/efforts will be wasted.
talaniman, think of an answer that will releive my stress not add more on.
Sorry, I don't have a magic wand to wave, but the truth is as others have said is, you have no control over her actions, or feelings, and a good friend keeps a band aid, or a crying towel handy, when there friend has to learn the hard way.
I feel very much offended with your attitude and the way you have been rating people. Most of these members here at AMHD have way more experience then you (I'm assuming you're quit young).
You asked for ADVICE and with ADVICE comes many different opinions whether you like it or not. You can either take it or ignore it. Most opinions come from personal experience so who are YOU to rate their answer as *bad* when they only want to share what they know.
If you don't agree, disagree nicely. For ex: 'I understand where you are coming from but I can't relate your opinion to my beliefs, so here is what I believe...' Catch what I'm saying?
Now back to your best friend issue. Some people have to learn the harsh way in order to realize later on that they made a mistake. So I didn't mean she should obsess in a bad way, only in a way that will make her learn in the long run. I know this from personal expierence. Unfortunately for my friend, it hasn't hit her yet and I'm not going to control what she does. She will never learn that way.
Thank you in advance. 
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