Should I leave him

Dominique · Jan 19, 2003, 04:40 PM

Get yourself a copy of the song: "hit the road Jack!"

Play it real loud, over and over, until you have the courage to tell him to go where he belongs.

Which isn't with you.

You deserve better than that.

nadia7526 · Jan 19, 2003, 09:51 PM

Dear Whyme,
I understand your confusion. I myself just left my husband last June because even though he stopped hitting me the emotional abuse was worse. You should get out before he starts hitting you again and maybe kill you. Feel free to ask more if you want to talk about it some more.
nadia

SlantedEyez · Jan 20, 2003, 12:49 PM

You deserve so much better and I'm sure that you can get it.. Leave him alone...that's not love..

dwalex · Jan 23, 2003, 02:36 PM

You know the answer, YES you should leave him. Its a "catch 22" situation; you lack the self confidence to leave and his treatment keeps your self confidence down. Take a day, gather up your determination and say "ADIOS". You can do better, you desrve better. Consider talking to a counselor, preacher, trusted friend etc to help you through this and to help you regain your self esteem.

Best wishes,
Dwalex

chabat · Feb 6, 2003, 12:23 PM

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He sounds like someone not worth being with to me. I think it is hard to change people. It is much easier to change yourself than someone else. If you are going to stay with him, get outside 3rd party help ie counseling. Sounds like the only reason you are still together is because you are able to always talk him into staying after a fight. Don't beg, there are probably plenty of guys who would beg to be with you. Anyway, Dr. Phil always says that: "doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity." Think about what you want out of a relationship. If this guy can't provide it or will not, then you know what to do. And don't ever deceive yourself into thinking it will change if you get married, it will, probably for the worse. The most disturbing part is that you said he is embarrassed to be with you. Stunning that he would say that/think that, and stunning that you are still with him. Put up with his ways or leave him.

ladylion · Feb 12, 2003, 09:51 PM

Dear confused about what to do,

let me first begin by telling you what you sound like you already know, LEAVE HIM! You say that you know you are beautiful, and guys hit on you all the time, so what's the problem? I mean, you act as if he's the ONLY guy that is paying you any attention. And why do you need a guy's attention to accept and feel loved ? No, I'm not a lesbian, but what I am getting at is this. Women are always placing so much imphasis on relationships and how they neeeeeed to be in on so bad until we forget that we are talking aloud and that someone who is weak minded ( such as yourself ) will hear what is being said. Sweetness, leave his behind where he is! He's not a man, he's a punk anytime he has to hit on you and belittle and hurt your feelings! Be strong, GIRL POWER! Lady lion

noredine · Feb 19, 2003, 03:12 PM

I am in duty bound to tell you that this relationship must be junked,it worthless and the element of love and mutual respect and understanding is missing.You have to change your pace,you have to be ready to change your perspective on life given your beauty and glamor.
So gird up your loins.

God Bless
Noredine

P.s: you can find me at answarway.com >

chaz1797 · May 15, 2003, 10:59 PM

You know do youself a favor and let him go if it is meant to be it will happen if not your better off...........once an abuser alaways one...................you see a person doesn't stop being an abuser overnite.........he has a problem and he has to deal wit it..........have respect foryourself and if there are other guys that like you , try it you mmight find Mr right for sure this one doesn't look like he's the one.................if he loved you he wouldn't do things to hurt you............bottom line you deserve better.............best of luck and God bless

Chaz

Vicky · May 27, 2003, 12:09 PM

Here's my advice to you my dear,

Your first abuse whether it's physical or verbal...YOUR THE VICTIM.

Second time YOU VOLUNTEER!

That goes for every woman out there who ALLOWS a man to continue the cycle of abuse.

He has NO respect for you and what do you think woman? Someday he will? It's not happening honey.

It will only be get worse from here. IT'S ALL ABOUT RESPECT! IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT FOR each other YOU HAVE NOTHING!

But we all go through one or two devils in our lives to know and to be able to appreciate the good one. Don't walk away from him, RUN FROM HIM.

He's a LOSER honey and you're a bigger one if you stay.

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