Should I keep trying with my ex?

just forget about him.

Yep... That post above me is the answer to "What should I do?"... Why keep stressing yourself over this, what's the gain from it, how is it helping you? It isn't... I came from a semi-similar situation to yours and me and that person broke up recently for the forth and FINAL time in 8 years, on and off and when you know as you professed at the beginning of the paragraph " I know it is going nowhere"... There's no reason to hold in when something like that is definite... I know its really hard because of the emotions you have and the length of time you've known him but you have to forget about the guy..

As for "Does he really care?"

Another reason you shouldn't be with him... If you have to ask yourself that question there is a huge problem there... You should just know someone cares and see it and believe it, if there's doubt that's not good...

Let *Sarah have him and show that your not going to put up with the stress from this and move on and find someone who won't put you in a situation like that and have you thinking like that

You know in your heart this is a losing battle with a guy who actually sounds like a loser! Sorry ,but true.

A man never defines you ,be a strong independent woman without a man and you will one day find a man who truly respects you because you demand it because you are *too good to deserve crap*.

You have to believe that and act accordingly!

People only disrespect you if you allow them. Your better than that!

He doesn't love you or he wouldn't have a problem telling you , what he's doing is keeping you on a string so whenever he needs a booty call your there , and he'll keep doing it while you allow him.

I say forget about the lousy cheater , move on and one day you'll find someone who'll treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Well I unfortunately suffer from OCD so I take these things a lot worse but... What I learned is that no matter how much you love a person or how much they may love you... If there's going back and forth and doubting and all these uneasy feelings, that's the time to jump ship before you get even more hurt

99% of the time the saying "if it doesn't work the first time, it'll never work" pertaining to relationships is correct

It doesn't matter.

You are a bad fit.

Done.

My ex is a woman I dearly love. Can't be with. Good as friends. Screwed as mates. Doesn't have to make sense.

So.... Is it better if he loves you and you are a lousy pair or he doesn't love you and you are a lousy pair?

Sure... Its a bigger blow to the ego if he is doing the healthy thing... Moving on, or trying to...

You can love someone you can't be with. Been there, done that, more than once.

By your own words,
Thats enough to leave him alone, as the 5 years you were together before, wasn't enough

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Hey guys, I'm going to try be pretty breif with my relationship with tyler, as if I into too much detail I would be here for year. A typical Romeo and Juliet with as much Drama in the equatian. Who ever said love was easy huuuh?Basically me & tyler where never destined to be together partly due to my social setting but also for various outher reasons. My family would disown me if they knew I continouned to talk to him. I'm currently in University but he isn't as career orientated, however as I'm got with him quite young, it wasn't as heavily prioritised in my mind so I was quite obvilious to it's importance.On the contrary my parents exremely disagreed. His family also have no time for me, which I find quite insulting, as I have never done anything wrong, but they are entiled to their opinions. I did however get paralytically drunk one night, and decided to ring tyler, it was after I found out he began dating Sarah( I will explain further) and called him very vulgar and offensive names but I was angry.It's amazing, when you break up with somebody you only remember their good points. I will be brutally honest, tyler was and is no angel. We were on a break and he met a girl, I met a guy. It was only suppose to be a break, but Sarah ended up getting pregnant. Me and Tyler got back together after many arguemnets btu we loved each other as funny as it sounds. (Tyler had cheated on me before I won't lie not once or twice maybe more this was before our break. I know your thinking how can somebody cheat on you if they love you? And I ask myself that time and time again, he also regularly spoke disresectfully too me calling me AWFUL names and hurt me in more ways than you could ever imagine. I like to believe it was his environment if that makes sence. He didn't know better.It's the easiest way of thinking of it. Love is blind as they say. That was quite early on in our relationship I might add but it still doesn't justify what he did or make the hurt he cause any easier.I don't think it was as serious for him at the start as it was for me. This rebel guy, and a blonde school-girl not exactly a match made in heaven.) So as I was saying we got back together but he finished with me to get back with sarah before she had the kid, and it hurt like nothing I have ever experienced. I risked everything for him my family, school... But apparently I was suppose to have cheated on him it really killed him his brother told him? I would totally admit it now 3 years on but it is not true. There was a lot of anomosity between us, after he heard that so finished with me got with Sarah. It was a very tough and emotional time, a lot of tears, he knew I deserved better than what he could ever offer and it hurt but maybe he was right. Sarah was a girl that his family would have known she was immediately accepted and if anything wanted in the family.They had a beautiful baby girl. I never knew how Tyler felt about Sarah, and still to this day don't because he refused to talk about it, why do you think that is guys?During this time he never stopped calling or texting and after nearly 3 years together, it was difficult to say goodbye I justified talking to him in as many ways as I could unbeknowst to my friends of family. All the while I was heartbroken over what had happened, truly devastated. Till one day we decided we couldn't take it anymore and got back together. But as you know things didn't work out which I will take full blame for! We never stopped contact, and it is the most reasurring feeling knowing he is there. Never a day goes past where he doesn't ask how I am, or how my day went. Maybe its just comfort and security at this stage. Over I'd say the last half a year I got with a beautiful handsome guy studying medicine he was 'paper perfect' and I thought just maybe this work giving guys a chances.I made a lot of new friends, and I only met up with tyler maybe 3 times. I thought it was time to leave the past at bay and start afresh. It wasn't an easily made decision and with a heavy heart I ignored ty. Refusing his calls, deleting his messages it was devasting and I knew I was hurting him as he bombarded me with texts and calls. It was the right thing to do you know. For about a month or so this happened, and it was a lot easier than I had thought. Me and the guy I was seeing unfortunately didn't work but I was on a high. I heard though just 3 weeks ago his cousin died and I just wanted to see was he okay.so we got back in contact and he didn't question me over ignoring him and it was forgotten about. But just last week he suggested drinks as he does, and I said to bring a few people but he wanted just the too of us, I didn't think it was a good idea so it ended up me and a few of the guys. I ended up staying with him For the weekend, and we had an absolute great time and it just felt right being with him those old feelings I tried to bury resurfaced and here I was head over heals, infactuated, blissfully happen. Nothing else mattered if there sky fell I wouldn't have noticed or worse I wouldn't have cared. Whilst I was there, he went to the shop and I sat reading my book and decided to take a look at his messages as he left his phone behind. And there right in front of my eyes were messages from sarah saying how much she loved him and desperatly wanted to meet up. I was so annoyed but I didn't want to ruin anything or admit my nosyness so I just left it. But over the past week he has been so off with me, its scary. He hasn't been ignoring me but not contacting me as much. I asked him if he loved me and he avoided the question. Whilst over the weekend he said it to me and in front of his family. I'm as confussed as ever. Now it is me who is contacting him regurly. I don't understand like and he won't talk to me about which is so unusual. Sorry guys this is abit of an essay but I'm in tormoil and I need some advice ASAP.I can;t even talk to my friends about it because they would kill me if they found out we still talked. Thanks guys

Should you keep trying with your ex? No.