Well ever since I came here I only posted part of my problem... so here's the whole story of what's what... well I been knowing my lady friend for almost 2 years... and even to the point we had feelings for each other... got to the point she met up a guy that used to date my ex on myspace and started being friends... (double drama) telling her about how my ex was saying some foul and untrueful mess about me... in other words... he was really trying to talk to my girl that it made her feel real distance and less talking to me... got to the point where I been the type that always hear her problems or talk about anything on what's on our mind... we have always say we love each other but the more I realize as if she was either using me just to tell me what's wrong with her or needed me... she always telling me about the guy she was cool never wanted to hear her situation or just wanted her to be his needs... even got to the point where this dude would email me on myspace to ask her to call him on his new number... of course I was piss.. . and she was even piss at him too.. but my heart kept telling me something don't seem right... leaving comments telling her he love her but even blew me away was the part she ended up being in a relationship with this guy... but she lied to me claiming she never had feelings for him in the past till now?. very mess up for me or should I say... a close behind door relationship thing I guess... getting the wrong advice I stop talking to her for a month... its been 2 months since I talked to her until last Friday she text me... saying hi.. so I text back saying hey... but no response... but that Sunday night she text me goodnight while was knock out sleep... and try to call me... that really blew me away... so now... I don't know what I should do I feel I can do better on my own to talk to a better person that will care 50/50 in a relationship but I also want to know if there any way she will change from not being so selfish person and be real about she was wrong

Expecting her to change for you, is downright unrealistic. Never wait for that kind of change, when your time and efforts are better spent, doing what you should for your own happiness, and well being. Leave her alone, and move forward with your life, and don't look back.