Hi this is my first time to ask a question on this wud really appreciate any help!I have been with my girlfriend for just over 2 and a half years,i am her first person to ever sleep with her and theres a six year age gap between us,which has never been a problem,right up until we broke up she was always telling me how much she loved me and even hinted that i was the only guy she ever wanted to be with,as soon as she started college she said she needed time alone she said its got nothin to do with meeting other people she jus doesnt want to have to worry about havin to ring somebody else all the time,naturally i was completely heartbroken as this came out of nuthin and i cant believe shes based wat shes felt for two weeks overrule what shes felt for 2 and a half years!!i feel so angry and cheated as the amount of sacrifices i made while she was trying to get into college and as soon as she gets in i get dumped,thou she says its not like that,and shes probably making the biggest mistake of her life.So i have decided to go traveling for a year and since then we hav met up a few times and everything has been perfect shes told me how much she loves me,shes been al over me wen we go out,she wants us to keep in contact when i go away,but that wud make it so hard for me to get over here if i was in contact with her regularly,im inclined to say to her youv made your bed now you have to lie in it,i know its cold but thats how i feel!I genuinly believe that we shud be together and i just know it will only hit her when i go and she will be heartbroken, we wer so happy together even her friend always said to her how good we were to gether,sorry for goin on but wud appreciate any advice,should i cut off contact and hope she comes back or stay in touch(which i sometimes think is maybe making the transistion a bit easy for her!)

jastheace

hmmm hard 1 i think... woman like attention and if your not there they get it elsewere people are all the same with the same basic needs and wants i think you should go seperate ways find someone at college that you can enjoy what time you have on this oblique planet

Allheart

Hi Soccerfan,

This is a tough one. At first, I would say....follow your heart....do what it tells you. I tend to be a believer in doing what your heart says first, as to do something unnatural, may cause you more upset and down the road regret.

If you do follow your heart, and you are not getting the feelings, attention and respect reciprocated, it may be time to have a chat with her and tell her exactly how you feel.

She did make her bed a bit and I am sure it does sting, but I would say give it a little more time, as long as it does not cause you any hurt, and inside you feel her actions are genuine.

I wish you the best.

talaniman

Err on the side of your own health and needs. You are at different places in life, so let her live, and get on with getting over her. Tell her why and move on.

Wildcat21

Yes leave her alone - generally people go to college they need to be free.

Unfortunately for you she needs and FEELS the need to date other guys and see what else is out there.

She may come back and she may not.

Call her in six months to say hi. I highly advise that.

Right now - figure also wha tpushed her away. Did you become too needy (sounds like it) - too avaialble to her?