I am 22 years of age and have been dating my current boyfriend who is 25 years of age for just over a year and a half. Last night we had a discussion about what would happen if I got a job offer in another city. He works in a grocery store that his parents own right now and I have already moved from my hometown to be with him, left everything and everyone I knew so I could be with him. We have planned to get married, picked out rings and everything but when I asked him if I had to move to another city for my job he said he wouldn't come with me because of the grocery store he works in and he wants to try and own it some day. Am I wrong in thinking he should move for me or is this being selfish? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

minisilvi11

Steno,
I'm in hte same situation, and I know how you feel. Your boyfriend( future husband), should recognize that you did make a great sacrifice for him in one point in time. If he plans to get married with you he should be open to making some sacrafices himself. That's all I have for you now. I wish you the best of luck with this situation.
minisilvi11

laptop1

This may sound a little old fashion to u but the man should always be the provider in the family in more ways than just financial. He should also be the spritual leader in the family. You are young and so is he give it a few more years to see if this is who you honestly want to marry. If you are questioning the fact that he will not leave with you now then you will question it later and what do u think will happen then a divorce. not what u want sweety u have time to grow in this relationship and the good book tells us that when u marry u shall leave your mother and father and he like wise and u shall live as one and where your husband goes you to shall follow... my concern with this relationship is that if he wants to stay in the FAMILY business is he letting go of his family to live as one with u and make a family of his own. Just give this more time to see if u are willing to follow him in his life journey or are you independent enough to let go and take your own journey and see where it takes u in life. Good luck and God bless and pray about this God will never lead you astray. talk to your clergy and get the facts set forth in the bible as to what u should do. I will keep u in my prayers and ask that God guides u in the right direction and that he either keeps this person u feel is right for u in your life or that he will lead u to the right person who will be th best for your life purpose...