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this girl that works at the bank i go to, i am very attracted to. she never really showed much attention to me until a friend of mine (my buddys girlfirend) asked her if she had a boyfriend, ...she said yes. then my friend told her a friend of hers (me) thinks she is very attractive and where i work. this girl i am referring to already knew where i work so i assume she knows its me. so after my friend put it out there...this banker girl struck up conversation with me out of nowhere the next time i went in, which was a week later....which for me was huge because i barely got a hello from her before all this. the thing is, i work at a bar and was wondering if i should extend a friendly invite for her to come in for a drink and see what happens? (however she supposedly has a boyfriend) what are my options here without being "that guy" who comes in between a relationship.
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why dont you ask if she and her "boyfriend" want to go for a drink with you and your friends, that way it'll seem like a group outing than a date. at least then you can be friendly without causing conflict if she does have a boyfriend.
However if it turns out she doesnt, invite her again, just the two of you.
Well are you sure she has a boyfriend?
and ok your attracted to her Become her friend then ask her to go for the drink
Thats just being Friendly its not like your asking her too go on a date with you or anything too serious
Girls throw the BF word out there to scare off the scum. I would ask her if she has a BF, if she says no, ask her out. If she says yes, invite them both. At the very least you stand to make 2 new friends!
i'd talk to her a few more times. then figure out a way to casually bring up where you work (it doesnt matter if she already knows or not) and maybe invite her to bring some of her girlfriends by with her sometime. then you'll have chance to get ot know her more but you won't run the risk of seeming too forward.
She is unavailable, and getting your feelings all worked up, with false hope is not healthy.
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what are my options here without being "that guy" who comes in between a relationship
Invite her and her friends to the bar, but have no expectations for more. What if she shows up with her b/f???? How would you feel then??? Hope they tip good. Me I direct my attentions elsewhere.
The fact is unless she is absolutley confident (which most women are not confident in this area) she will not ask you out. You have to make the move. A none threatening one like asking her to swing by your work for a drink is a good one.
Yes, try a "friendly" casual invite. She showed no interest before because of her being involved in a relationship, but then she found out you like her, now it opened up an opportunity. She may not be happy in her current relationship, or it is a sign to tread carefully. Get to know her better and figure out what is going on before you go take the next step.
Nice guys finish last aggressive guys rules the world forget about her boyfriend i think she hasn't got one or she want to start a new relationship thats why she is interested be a man ask her girls like confident man for your information
in Cambodia "woman walk behind their mans" !!
have fun
ask her to go for the drink
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