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My ex and I have been broken up for a few months now and i am not over him. he continues to call me to talk and find out how i am, and to tell me whats up with him. He has even told me he is seeing someone, so i don't understand why he even bothers calling. It hurts so much to talk to him. should I take his calls when I know im not over him, and i know he is over me, and that he just wants to be friends. Some friends have told me to ignore him, and I occasionally do this, but i have on many occasions taken his call and i always hurt during and after. But i feel that I am for some reason continuing to wrack my brain as to wether I should take the call. Why can't I make up my mind. I told him when we broke up that I wouldn't call him anymore, and I don't, so is he being a jerk and playing games. I feel stupid because part of me says this shouldn't be an issue and that it should be easier to just not pick up the phone. Please any advice would do.
I would'nt, and it seems you know you should NOT pick up either. Smart move! The only reason he is calling is to see if he still has you all messed up. Don't fall for it!
Some friends have told me to ignore him, and I occasionally do this, but i have on many occasions taken his call and i always hurt during and after.
Hi there and welcome to AMHD.
Read your sentence above.
Now, why keep answerin his calls if you yourself said you always hurt during and after. You cause more pain to yourself. This way you are hardly going to get over him.
This decission of keeping in contact seems like it wasnt a mutual decission, just his, which is very unfair on you. He is about and about gettin on with life, sort im happy so f**K you Jack.. Heard of that saying!
So please, i would change your mob number if he calls on your mob. Or if you dont wanna do that, when he rings, pick up the call, be firm and tell him to STOP calling you, as you are not bothered to speak to him no more. But only do this if you know you can be strong and firm about it.
When and if you do this, afterwards you probably break down and cry.. but consider them your last tears for this selfish ex of yours
wisest thing is not to answer, if it hurts you, which evidently it will! why you torture yourself by talking to him, since he has already moved on in his life, the new gf i mean.... then you should move on too by cloing his chapter for good
This decission of keeping in contact seems like it wasnt a mutual decission, just his, which is very unfair on you. He is about and about gettin on with life, sort im happy so f**K you Jack.. Heard of that saying!
Stop going down his one-way street. No contact. YOU deserve to heal just as he has, don't you?
Contact after a break up is almost always mindgames. Games take two to tango. Participate if you like but then don't complain later about it being a game.
As krs said, I think the answer to yor question lies in your own post.
you say after each call you take from him that it hurts you.
ENOUGH SAID. STOP taking his calls.
I know it is hard and you must think that each time he calls he is ringing to ask you back and confess his love for you. I understand maybe you thinking and hopoing that. But it isnt happening is it.
he is ringing to see if he still has you... and by you answering his calls all the time it proves to him that he does.
For your own good you need to stop answering his calls and move on.
Find some other things to do to help get over him. Join a gym, workout, run, more school, work harder, casually date others and meet new people.
It is hard but it will get better. But while you keep answering his calls you are only punishing yourself!
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